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[nakednudists]

Posted Tue Mar 07 2006 7:20 PM
Just what I've been looking for more families for friends!!! GREAT!!! Well I don't even know where to begin, Im SSSOO thrilled about coming across your profile? Guess I'll start by saying that I am a ROCKING open-minded person, but I am VERY sensitve, too!! Let me send you more later, OK? Please, tell me some about you all, too!! So, please send me a note back; and the FUN can begin!!!!!!! You won't be sorry you did, I PROMISE!!!!!! Again I just have to say WOW!!!!!

Just thought this PM from this person was a bit too much....thought everyone else should see it. and

[nakednudists]

Posted Tue Mar 07 2006 7:20 PM
Just what I've been looking for more families for friends!!! GREAT!!! Well I don't even know where to begin, Im SSSOO thrilled about coming across your profile? Guess I'll start by saying that I am a ROCKING open-minded person, but I am VERY sensitve, too!! Let me send you more later, OK? Please, tell me some about you all, too!! So, please send me a note back; and the FUN can begin!!!!!!! You won't be sorry you did, I PROMISE!!!!!! Again I just have to say WOW!!!!!

Just thought this PM from this person was a bit too much....thought everyone else should see it. and

[MJ_KC]

I believe that it is a TOS violation to post the above message.

"Re-posting copies of private email responses or private messages in the open forums or other places on the internet is uncongenial, destroys trust and is not allowed."

[shomymojo]

well...at least they are enthuiastic...LOL

[Jay473]

Don't think he is breaking any trust there MJ. The message went into his own private message box and it is his choice to decide if he's going to share this PM with others or keep it to him self. I my self must agree that the private message is little odd and we all must agree that some other people are here on the forums for more than what the others are here for.

[KetchumMaine]

quote:

Originally posted by Jay473:
Don't think he is breaking any trust there MJ. The message went into his own private message box and it is his choice to decide if he's going to share this PM with others or keep it to him self. I my self must agree that the private message is little odd and we all must agree that some other people are here on the forums for more than what the others are here for.

Technically, he is still violating TOS, But I have made the same mistake and the Forum Mods didn't boot me.

[krcNY]

I am not sure I would have posted the PM on the forums.

Yes, their PM is a bit enthusiastic. If they felt comfortable posting on the boards, they would have done so. If you are unsure, you can hit Report Post. The mods can check it out and delete them if need be.

I would (at least) go back and edit the post and delete the members Name from your post.

[nakednudists]

Hmmmmm, lets see. I see the arguments from both sides of the fence, however, I see nothing wrong with posting his message as it is just a little weird. Maybe that's what some of these people need is a little exposure...to let other people know that they are here for the wrong reasons. Now, before anyone jumps the gun-your right, I can't prove that he is here for the wrong reasons. But read the PM-it just gets kind of old after awhile.

If I did violate the terms, then so be it...he did too. On this site, you never know when you are going to offend someone.

[LamontCranston]

Hey Naked Nudists..
I'm glad you posted the PM, thanks for the heads up. If something smells off when you open the fridge, it's time to look in all the containers.

I think it's better to shine a light on the shadows and apologize later. [ -- that's a pun!]

Nudism and privacy concerns or not, if this was coming in to my daughter's MySpace account I'd want one of her friends to give a heads up.

Be Safe and Have a Day..
Mike S

[shãybare]

I don't believe it to be a violation of the TOS if the name isn't revealed. Also, even though the message is so enthusiastic, I am not sure we should label it without more evidence.

[nakednudists]

Thanks Mike S. I did, after writing my last post, read the terms of service. There is so many things that you can't do, it is easy to break the rules.

Maybe we can avoid people like this in our forums with a bit more screening of their applications. I know for a fact, in another website (don't want to mention it...might be breaking the terms of service) that we don't have this problem. Just great people enjoying the nudist lifestyle. Just some things to ponder.
I am sure that people are tired of these kind of pm's especially the women.

[LamontCranston]

Tired? Oh yeah..
One of the things I struggle with is going to a resort, event, whatever and being in the "gawking males" crowd.

I'm quite sensitive to folks like you (couples and families) and want you to enjoy nudism without an audience.

I just want to walk though the woods, sit in a hot tub, swim, and feel the warm sunshine without the hassle. If others are around, that's great, but they aren't welcome to occupy the beach chair next to me and unload their life story.

A polite nod and, "How do you do" works best for starters.

Heck with a long list of rules. When a fly buzzes around your head you reach out and swat it.

[PascoDoug]

quote:

Originally posted by nakednudists:
Thanks Mike S. I did, after writing my last post, read the terms of service. There is so many things that you can't do, it is easy to break the rules.

It's all common sense stuff, really.

I don't see anything wrong with publicly informing the members here of strange/inappropriate PMs. I don't think that's the situation that the TOS is referring to. As you said, a little exposure is a wonderful deterrent.

But seriously, the BEST thing to do with inappropriate PM's is to bring them to the attention of the moderators.

And btw, mentioning other websites is fine as long as they do not contain or link to adult/pornographic materials.

[PascoDoug]

quote:

Originally posted by nakednudists:
Maybe we can avoid people like this in our forums with a bit more screening of their applications.

Actually we do regularly check profiles of new members.. and we do find many questionable ones that are either deleted or watched closely. Unfortunately not all of the "weirdos" write profiles that indicate they may be here for the wrong reasons. There's only so much that can be done, especially on a website with the volume of traffic this one has.

Just have to take care of `em when they pop up... like the whack-a-mole game

[usmc1]

So someone got hit on in a pm. Big Whoop! Why not just respond, "not interested", or ignore it? And life goes on. Then if the person persists it becomes an issue...but this "outing" is ridiculous and the whole thread should be deleted.

It certainly does not merit all this agonizing and hand-wringing and back and forth.