some questions

[dpdogwood]

1. If men want visual and women want romance, why do men have to be romantic first instead of women first being pleasing to their man visually? I'm not talking being in shape or beautiful, I'm talking being visually or acting sexualy!

2. I think I'm having a problem looking at too many women on the internet. I seem to not have as great a desire for my wife as I use to. I think that by looking at the sites all day, my mind is full and satisfied, and I don't seem to need her for sexual fulfillment. I don't masturbate to the ladies I look at, but I seem to not need the wife as much as I used to. Any opinons on the reasoning behind this lack of desire would be appreciated without any cutdowns.

3. Playing the stocks!!! Why does the adrenaline seem to be so great a rush against the senses when you lose money compared to when you gain money? I like to win, but I hate losing sooooo much more!!!

[dpdogwood]

1. If men want visual and women want romance, why do men have to be romantic first instead of women first being pleasing to their man visually? I'm not talking being in shape or beautiful, I'm talking being visually or acting sexualy!

2. I think I'm having a problem looking at too many women on the internet. I seem to not have as great a desire for my wife as I use to. I think that by looking at the sites all day, my mind is full and satisfied, and I don't seem to need her for sexual fulfillment. I don't masturbate to the ladies I look at, but I seem to not need the wife as much as I used to. Any opinons on the reasoning behind this lack of desire would be appreciated without any cutdowns.

3. Playing the stocks!!! Why does the adrenaline seem to be so great a rush against the senses when you lose money compared to when you gain money? I like to win, but I hate losing sooooo much more!!!

[BlobbyBob]

And these questions are related to nudism how?

[nimrod]

What Bob said, and it sounds to like you have a problem with addiction.

[PascoDoug]

This topic has been moved to Open Conversation as it does not relate to naturism/nudism.

[Boreas]

quote:

Originally posted by nimrod:
What Bob said, and it sounds to like you have a problem with addiction.

Ditto what the others have said.

I would suggest you find a counsellor in your area so that you can discuss these concerns with someone in person. There is help if you do have an addiction problem.

[nacktman]

Addiction is the right term here!

Get some help!

In answer to the questions:

Number one - You're destined to be alone ... until you change your attitude, you'll be quite intimate with your right hand.

Number two - Refer to answer above.

Number three - You're insane, may be? Off center at least!

[usmc1]

quote:

Originally posted by dpdogwood:
1. If men want visual and women want romance, why do men have to be romantic first instead of women first being pleasing to their man visually? I'm not talking being in shape or beautiful, I'm talking being visually or acting sexualy!

2. I think I'm having a problem looking at too many women on the internet. I seem to not have as great a desire for my wife as I use to. I think that by looking at the sites all day, my mind is full and satisfied, and I don't seem to need her for sexual fulfillment. I don't masturbate to the ladies I look at, but I seem to not need the wife as much as I used to. Any opinons on the reasoning behind this lack of desire would be appreciated without any cutdowns.

3. Playing the stocks!!! Why does the adrenaline seem to be so great a rush against the senses when you lose money compared to when you gain money? I like to win, but I hate losing sooooo much more!!!

Damn dude, stay out of the heat.

This is and indicator what 30 some days of 100-plus heat will do to some people. Sunday, 2PM, my covered porch, in the shade, 110. She It! y'awl that's hot.

How hot is it in Texas?

It's so hot gin and tonic don't touch it.

It's so hot that when the grasshoppers jump up out of the weeds and the sun hits them they snap and pop like popcorn.

It's so hot that I saw an army of fire ants heading west carrying little signs that said, Arizona or bust, it's too dang hot here!

It's so hot that some guys are starting to post some really weird pervy stuff on the internet.

That's how hot it is.

[todgar]

quote:

2. I think I'm having a problem looking at too many women on the internet. I seem to not have as great a desire for my wife as I use to. I think that by looking at the sites all day, my mind is full and satisfied, and I don't seem to need her for sexual fulfillment. I don't masturbate to the ladies I look at, but I seem to not need the wife as much as I used to. Any opinons on the reasoning behind this lack of desire would be appreciated without any cutdowns.

I pretty much have to concur with what the others have said about addictive behavior and so forth. Also, a prolonged lack of interest in one's partner is usually an indication of an underlying problem in the relationship, and the addictive behavior may be an unconscious form of "acting out" in an attempt to avoid the real issue(s). Some sort of marriage counseling might not be a bad idea. Just a thought.

Take care.
Todd

[Bob S.]

dogwood:
1. If men want visual and women want romance, why do men have to be romantic first instead of women first being pleasing to their man visually? I'm not talking being in shape or beautiful, I'm talking being visually or acting sexualy!

When trying to pick up someone, one must have the visual beauty/sexuality, both men and women. In order for the relationship to grow, both must become more romantic with visual sexuality still important. After marriage, the romance is the leading factor and the visual sexuality wanes as the couple settles down and learns how to live with each other and work through all the problems that come with marriage.

2. I think I'm having a problem looking at too many women on the internet. I seem to not have as great a desire for my wife as I use to. I think that by looking at the sites all day, my mind is full and satisfied, and I don't seem to need her for sexual fulfillment. I don't masturbate to the ladies I look at, but I seem to not need the wife as much as I used to. Any opinons on the reasoning behind this lack of desire would be appreciated without any cutdowns.

Half of the cure of the problem is acknowledging that you have one. Now for the second part and that is why have you two moved apart. I won't even dare to hazard a guess, but as others have mentioned, seeing a counselor for both you and you two may be in order. Also, if you feel that your libido is lessened, a visit to your physician may be helpful. A loss of libido can be caused by medical problems.

Good luck.

Bob S.

[nudenwv]

well - not knowing your age a womans libido lessens at age 40. a mans increased at that age. my wife has some ailments that cause her libido to decrease along with some meds. i think between your viewing women and masturbating your taking care of your sexual frustration. just the masturbating takes care of it for me.