Do people loosen up sexually as they get older?

[Gary Naturist]

This topic was inspired by Melissa's previous topic regarding whether people loosen up as they get older.

Most people label themselves as heterosexual or homosexual at an early age and feel completely uni-sexual. On a scale of 1 to 5 where 1 is heterosexual and 5 is homosexual, almost everyone chooses either 1 or 5.

I'm wondering whether some people find that, as they get older, they loosen up sexually. Do some people feel less uni-sexual -- i.e. are more likely to contemplate some level of sexual activity with the sex other than their traditional choice, i.e. would label themselves as 2 or 4 on the scale. (I'm talking about sex only, not love.)

If so, is this just increased tolerance associated with aging, or an increased tendency to separate sex and love as the person gets older, or something else?

Gary

[Gary Naturist]

This topic was inspired by Melissa's previous topic regarding whether people loosen up as they get older.

Most people label themselves as heterosexual or homosexual at an early age and feel completely uni-sexual. On a scale of 1 to 5 where 1 is heterosexual and 5 is homosexual, almost everyone chooses either 1 or 5.

I'm wondering whether some people find that, as they get older, they loosen up sexually. Do some people feel less uni-sexual -- i.e. are more likely to contemplate some level of sexual activity with the sex other than their traditional choice, i.e. would label themselves as 2 or 4 on the scale. (I'm talking about sex only, not love.)

If so, is this just increased tolerance associated with aging, or an increased tendency to separate sex and love as the person gets older, or something else?

Gary

[Trailscout]

This seems like two questions.
My orientation toward the female gender remains as is.
My behavior is changing. I am increasingly likely to form platonic friendships with females who are physically attractive, but not soul mates. If I meet a kindred spirit, I am more focused on open communication, developing the relationship. My belief in romance is stronger than ever, meeting in romantic settings, talking in romantic terms, but the most intimate physical union can wait until marriage. A married couple can and should enjoy wild uninhibited love making. In that context animal passion is a good thing. I am much more okay with that than ever, less guilt and hesitancy.

[cirram]

Studies show that NO ONE is 100% hetero or homosexual. 80% of ppl have at least, once in their life, a fantasy (or dream) of same sex relations without the urge to "act" on it.

[Trailscout]

Cirram, based on your statistics, it looks like 20% of people are 100% hetero or homosexual. (100% minus 80% equals 20%) [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

[naturalmanwa]

As far as I am concerned the study is a big waste of time. I am and have been and always will be 100% hetero and have no desire to be otherwise. I am 61 yrs. old. The people who do these studies apparently don't have any idea whatsoever what they are talking about.

[cirram]

I don't think you can find stats on their site, but I have read some of their books.

http://www.indiana.edu/~kinsey/index.html

As for the stats I gave, I don't have all the details in front of me but I'm sure that if you do a bit a research on the net you can find the exact ones and details.

[Trailscout]

I used to know an old farmer whose preferences extended beyond the human race. He didn't care as long as the creatures he did his thing with were female. I don't know if that meant that he was 100% hetero.

[cirram]

LOL [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

[P.J.]

Perhaps we become a little more open-minded on some sexual issues. That does not mean that heterosexuality will give way to homosexuality.
Certain sexual acts, which as younger men and women, we considered taboo are now incorporated into our sexual repertoire.
Is it from getting old?
I doubt it.
We are bombarded with sex, whether it's a TV advertisement or in a secluded corner of an adult book store.
As for the statistics, the figures are not really reliable.
If you take a poll at a singles bar, and then take that same poll at a church dinner, the results will not be the same...even if everyone approached answered completely and honestly.
Polls are fun, but don't make any bets based on the results.

[Trailscout]

P.J. If a guest came to my home and spoke or behaved the way certain television shows or commercials do, he would not be invited back.

You have more power to make your home a peaceful place than you may realize.

[Chief78CJ7]

I'm amazed that people actually think that OTHER PEOPLE have their sexual tastes changed by "media", "today's soceity", "liberals", "the gay agenda", etc, etc, etc... But their own views don't change because of any of that. I everyone feels its only everyone else that has outside input sway their moral beliefs.. who are these other people?? I wanna talk to people who watch 20/20 or the local news to find out what they should think about how and when they want their sex.

I think the answer is that morality and sexual preferences are much much much older than all of us. This view that sexuality starts with your birth and ages with your age is extemely narrow sighted. All forms of sexual deviations have exicited for centuries. Some people actually think piercings are a fade but as most know have existed for years.. many 'fads' actually cycle through out the ages.

[nacktman]

Chief78cj7,

You must be a time traveler.
It has all been done before folks and the "cycles" come around every so often and "it" is discovered again and becomes the new "fad"
(check out the thread cyndian started on toplessness in england during the 1600's, I posted there about the cyclical nature of history)

As one ages one does "loosen up" in all aspects because you recieve move information and interpet what you recieve with the extended data base we term our "memories". Change or not to change attitudes and morays, methods and modes comes from these interpetations and not from the progammed data uploaded in the intial startup we like to call childhood.

[Zorro]

I think it's just like anything else: some do, some don't. All I know is that as I get older, I find myself attracted to all sorts of women, many of whom I would not have been 15-20 years ago. For instance, I never thought much of piercings or tattoos in my teens and 20's, but now, I often find women who have them to be quite attractive and certainly wouldn't mind being seen with them in public. So... if this is "loosening up sexually as we get older," then perhaps we all do.

[sawdust]

In my younger days I once asked an older gent if at his age he still had sex? His answer was priceless! He replied. "At my age, no we don't have sex as often as we did when we were younger, but when we do we are a lot more grateful!" Sawdust