Inappropriate Behavior at the Beach

[maninflipflops]

I have only been going to nude beaches for three summers, so I am no expert. But isn't urinating in public inappropriate? Just last weekend a man stood by the water peeing. He was not holding his penis, mind you, but he was standing by the water urinating in full view. I was really annoyed at that. Should I have said something to him?

[Guest]

Yes, urinating in public, even at a nude beach, is definitely inappropriate. Personal toilet activities should be kept in a private environment.

Sadly, there are normally not any security persons on a nude beach, and it's a difficult call to decide whether or not to set someone straight about inappropriate conduct. I agree this is an aggravating situation and these people are simply ignorant and ill-mannered,to say the least.

[nudenwv]

it's not only inappropriate but unhealthy especially if others were swimming in the water! if there were are any officials located at the beach i think i'd bring it to their attention. obviously this guy has no kooth.

[bullet]

In the U.S. it would definitely be inappropriate. Maybe in other parts of the world, it's normal. He could have been a European or something and meant no harm by it but not something I'd want to see.

[Bushnud2]

The best etiquette, or Kooth, or manners, would be to simply swim in the shallow water while this event was happening. Agree all above.
This is also a problem for inland Forest Bare Bushwalkers/Free Hikers, but then we have handy trees.............

[nudeM]

Maybe this guy should have just gone in the water and pee'd in it. Nobody would've noticed and nothing would've been said. Afterall, isn't that what most people do, especially since there are no facilities around? Just curious.

[Christian]

In re: to the above, it's not necessarily unhealthy since it is just urine. It may put people off. If he had to go maybe he should have just gone in the water or at the very least been more discreet. I live at the beach and can tell you that one often finds oneself out on the beach away from a bathroom when it is needed. You make due. Heck, I've known folks to to do more than urinate back in the dunes and then bury it. Similar to when camping I guess. Everyone pees, everyone poops. At least he wasn't peeing on you.

[maninflipflops]

Inappropriate Behavior

Now, what about seeing men having oral sex on the beach, or men looking around and masturbating? I've seen it several times and it seems to be increasing.

[Stu2630]

Now, what about seeing men having sex with oral sex on the beach, or men looking around and masturbating? I've seen it several times and it seems to be increasing.

Several times? Increasing? I have never seen any such behaviour on a textile beach - EVER!

Stu

[FireProf]

Now, what about seeing men having oral sex on the beach, or men looking around and masturbating? I've seen it several times and it seems to be increasing.

Then you say something!!!! This and simular actions have been the cause of us having to fight for our nude beach at San Onofre, in Northern San Diego County, California. Too many times naturists just turn their heads and say nothing...........worse yet........some of them will watch the entire incident and then complain about it.

Should you have said something to the guy urinating into the ocean?........YES, a simple..."ya know, what you're doing may be done by others but not in the manner you're doing it. How 'bout getting in the water where no one can tell what you're doing or......go find a bush to water!"

In the case of those involved in sexual activity; You should also say something to them such as ..........."Your actions are the reason we are losing places to go nude and we'd appreciate it if you'd stop." WE belong to a group that tries to police the beach at San Onofre. When I have them, I pass out flyers to newbies and especially to those I see pushing the envelop in regards to public sex.

My wife told this one couple........."just because we are naked doesn't give you the right to do something in front of me that you wouldn't otherwise. Knock off the mutual masterbation or I'll call the rangers and you'll get a ticket and kicked off the beach." They not only stopped, they packed up and left.

A few weeks ago, we visited San O and saw this couple getting close to doing something. Three of us guys just stood up and looked over at the guy. At first he thought we just wanted to watch but less than a minute later he stopped, changed his position and said something to his female friend. He got back up and sat in his chair........we sat back down and there wasn't anymore hanky panky over there the rest of the day.

So many fear confrontation but you don't always have to be confrontational. A simple explanation and request for them to respect others around them is usually enough to get most to stop. In all our years of visits to the beach and to resorts, we've only had a hand full of confrontations and it's never gotten physical........mostly just heated words from the offending party. Doesn't bother us, at least they stopped.

[RalphVa]

That's not right, urinating at the water's edge.

I've gone while sitting in the sand where no one could see what I was doing.

[Bob S.]

I agree with those who said that he should have just gone out into the water to do his business if he had to go that bad. A lot of people, especially children, urinate in the ocean while at the beach. When I was young, I did it on a number of occasions. It beat having to get out, disrupt my fun time, walk to the bathrooms, and deal with my wet suit.

Stu: "I have never seen any such behaviour on a textile beach - EVER!"

That's because textile beaches usually have lifeguards and other officials as well as being major public areas. Nude beaches are typically just the opposite. They rarely have lifeguards or officials who scout the area for inappropriate behaviour (unless they are trying to catch naked people) and are usually in out-of-the-way areas.

Bob S.

[florida-david]

not too smart

When my son was young (like 6 yrs old) we were at Haulover and he needed to pee, so i told him to go in the water and pee. So he walked so that his feet were covered in the water and stood there pee-ing. I noticed this and walked toward him and told him i meant for him to get fully in the water and pee, but he was pretty much done at that point. The people on the beach laughed and smiled (it was a busy day too), but that was because he was a cute little kid. An adult should know better, though honestly, i don't see the big deal. Pee is relatively harmless, unless you are a bush. I don't recommend peeing on bushes as some of them will die from the pee. Better to pee on a tree, less likely to be harmed. Some people advocate peeing in nature rather than flush 1.6 gallons down the drain. I would recommend a non public location and not peeing on bushes.

As for sexual activity, i think it happens a lot on beaches - AT NIGHT under the cover of darkness. I would not recommend it on a nudist beach (day or night), do it on a textile beach so as to not hurt the nudist reputation. Not that i would ever do that .

[Home Nudist]

I have a question: A number of people have suggested peeing in the water. Is this water that people swim in? Is this considered acceptable? I would think it would not be.

I realize that urine is supposed to be sterile when it leaves the bladder, but the idea of swimming in pee soup is a little off-putting to me.

When I was a kid, we went to a farm where the farmer had widened a RUNNING brook to create a swimming-picnic area, and he charged a small fee for its use. We kids swam (in bathing suits) and were instructed by our parents that it was OK to pee in the water. Since it was RUNNING water, it seemed logical to me. I never wondered what the adults were doing, but I assume now they did the same thing.

Does this practice (of peeing in the water) depend on whether or not the water is running, or is a huge lake, or is a swimming pool?

Just curious.

[Naturist Mark]

I have a question: A number of people have suggested peeing in the water. Is this water that people swim in? Is this considered acceptable? I would think it would not be.

I realize that urine is supposed to be sterile when it leaves the bladder, but the idea of swimming in pee soup is a little off-putting to me.

When I was a kid, we went to a farm where the farmer had widened a RUNNING brook to create a swimming-picnic area, and he charged a small fee for its use. We kids swam (in bathing suits) and were instructed by our parents that it was OK to pee in the water. Since it was RUNNING water, it seemed logical to me. I never wondered what the adults were doing, but I assume now they did the same thing.

Does this practice (of peeing in the water) depend on whether or not the water is running, or is a huge lake, or is a swimming pool?

Just curious.

To be sure a LOT of people will pee in any water. Pool chemistry is designed to deal with urine. Yech!

Urine is actually pretty harmless (usually), just gross. In the ocean or lake of any size its effect is negligible. But please not in the pool.

-Mark