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I would like to take my wife to a swim party at one of the local non-landed club functions near here. My wife is afraid that someone at the party will recognize her when they see her at work and start talking to her about the party and what type it was and her co-workers would find out. She works at a large store in the Toledo area and sees a lot of people every day. Does she have valid concerns? Are the participants tight lipped about who they know and where from? Is there anything I can say or do to help aleviate her fears?
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I would like to take my wife to a swim party at one of the local non-landed club functions near here. My wife is afraid that someone at the party will recognize her when they see her at work and start talking to her about the party and what type it was and her co-workers would find out. She works at a large store in the Toledo area and sees a lot of people every day. Does she have valid concerns? Are the participants tight lipped about who they know and where from? Is there anything I can say or do to help aleviate her fears? -
In almost all nudist/naturist events and places, confidentiality is a strict rule. Normally last names are not even used, unless you are a regular member of the club. So, in all probability, if she should run into someone who was there, they will preserve the confidentiality of what was going on. On the other hand, if she should run into someone she saw there, remind her that they are nudists also, and will only think her to be a fellow traveler. It is highly unlkely that they would begin sharing the experience in such a way that it would become public conversation. I hope she will go, and, if she does, I imagine she will enjoy the experience.Comment
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There is no reason to be concerned. If by chance you DO meet someone you know, it just means that they are nudists themselves, so you have something in common. You have no more to fear being 'outed' than they do.
Originally posted by Flybare:
[qb] I would like to take my wife to a swim party at one of the local non-landed club functions near here. My wife is afraid that someone at the party will recognize her when they see her at work and start talking to her about the party and what type it was and her co-workers would find out. She works at a large store in the Toledo area and sees a lot of people every day. Does she have valid concerns? Are the participants tight lipped about who they know and where from? Is there anything I can say or do to help aleviate her fears? [/qb]
I've never met someone I already knew at a nudist event. But I have met a few people in public and business situations that I knew from nudist activities. Never is it a problem, we know how to talk to each other in public without cluing in eavesdroppers. Turtle Lake Resort is referred to as 'the lake', the Toledo TanClub or Great Lakes Sunseekers Nude Splash Parties are 'the swim' or 'the party'.
I'm a board member of the two local nudist groups in Toledo. Feel free to PM or email me if you have private questions.
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I want to add something for your wife to think about.
If one of her customers are there, most likely they will be nude. And wouldn't bring the event up with another person. Just like your wife won't.
Tell her to go my wife enjoys being nude. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif[/img]Comment
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I might see someone I know...
I'd bet that that reason ranks pretty high on the fear scale when it comes to reasons not to give nudism a try. I know that it is the reason my wife fears going with me to a nude beach.
In actuallity, there is a very high chance that the people at a nudist setting (especially a nude swim) are understanding and really participate normally in the events. It is not some kind of dirty secret amoung nudists. It might be to someone outside of the social understanding, but why would they be at that kind of event?
Our biggest fears are sometimes void of real substance. Try to get her to picture the situation backwards. What would she do to another person if she saw someone SHE knew? Chances are any person would treat her in equal fashion.
Fresh AirComment
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I actually look forward to seeing someone I know at a nudist event.
Other than vacations to haulover beach I have yet to attend any kind of nudist event. That's only because there are none around here.
What better way to find out you have something in common with someone, than to meet them at an event you both enjoy.
Meeting someone you know would be a good thing.
SteveComment
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I went to a Bare Buns event in Virginia this past weekend and this fear was directly addressed. Gary, the presenter at the new people's orientation, said that you may very well find someone you know. However, nobody talks openly about who they see at a nudist event. For example, if you see someone from work that person is not going to tell everyone where they saw you over the weekend. If the two of you talk about it, you may refer to the event as a rec center event or a party. Your wife will NOT enter work on Monday to someone yelling across the room, "Hey- great seeing you at the nudie event this weekend! You've got some great knockers!" It just doesn't happen.
MelissaComment
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Let me relate an interesting story.
My wife and I belong to a resort. We were there for the long Memorial Day weekend. We took up lounges by the pool. A young lady took a loung next to us. Her skin was milk white so we took it that she was new to being nude outside,and we were right.. I was amazed when I found out that this was her first time ever to be socially nude,and she had come by herself. After talking for some time, she asked what do you do if you were to see someone you knew? My response was the typical-if they are here and naked it should be no problem. About 20 minutes later a nude couple walked by. The single lady exclaimed, "O my" She got up and went over to the young couple and they were all hugging and laughing. She sat and talked with them for a long time. When she came back to where we were she was laughing and then told us what was going on. It seems that young man and his wife were from her church, and he was the Minister of Music. She had a great weekend and so did they.
Go,be naked and relax.Comment
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"I went to a Bare Buns event in Virginia this past weekend and this fear was directly addressed."
Girl, you sure do get around!
Nice website too BTW. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]Comment
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One of my friends had a teenage daughter, and they loved going to the free beach together.
The daughter went to a Catholic College, and didn't want to go back to school after the summer holiday with a "give-away" all-over tan, so she wore bathers for the last two weeks of the holiday.
One day, wearing bathers, she went for a walk up the beach. She came back, more than a bit surprised. She'd seen her teacher, and some class-mates, further up the beach, nude.Comment
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Cyndiann,
I absolutely get around! I'm trying to get to as many nude places as physically possible in this area. Bare Buns was definitely the best so far. BTW, I may need your wisdom soon about this man thing. You see, I met this guy......
MelissaComment
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I think Fresh Air has the right approach. Just have your wife think of what she would do if she ran into someone at their place of employment that she recognized from the event. And, like everyone has been saying chances are it isn't going to happen.
TComment
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Thanks to everyone who replyed to my questions. My wife hasn't had time to read everything but i'm keeping fingers crossed and hoping for the best. I'll keep you posted.Comment
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