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Ok hear is the deal..Im 42 and new to the natural way o living. My wife is a second generation nudist and we got married. She has 3 daughters and I have one son now as far as me and my son go no prob that was ok when we where single...This is the prob..I now have 3 stepdaughters aand the "problem" chile is almost 15 and tall like her mom aand VERY competive! To make matters worse she is taller then me(althought she is still a kid) and she wants to wrestle. She has already wrestled my son and my wife and ALL her daughters ahve wrestled and she feels im well....you know....and she tells me that even if i lose i'll still be there stepdad..ok has anyone here been in this situation and how did you deal with it..Thanks in advance fr any feedback..my e-mail is [email protected]
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Ok hear is the deal..Im 42 and new to the natural way o living. My wife is a second generation nudist and we got married. She has 3 daughters and I have one son now as far as me and my son go no prob that was ok when we where single...This is the prob..I now have 3 stepdaughters aand the "problem" chile is almost 15 and tall like her mom aand VERY competive! To make matters worse she is taller then me(althought she is still a kid) and she wants to wrestle. She has already wrestled my son and my wife and ALL her daughters ahve wrestled and she feels im well....you know....and she tells me that even if i lose i'll still be there stepdad..ok has anyone here been in this situation and how did you deal with it..Thanks in advance fr any feedback..my e-mail is [email protected] -
I guess I don't understand what your problem is? Are you afraid to wrestle her because she's 15? Because she's naked? I think you should be honored that she accepts you in her family so readily, and though perhaps a bit cheeky, she's giving you the role of stepdad easily. Most teens do not when a new parent comes into their home.
If you are afraid of possible sexual repercussions (i.e. having CPS called on you or worse, the cops) then discuss these concerns with your wife. Since this girl has wrestled everyone else in the house, it is hardly possible that this would be a sexual thing--just an overactive, highly athletic, and enthusiastic young lady wanting to hone her skills. Again, you should be honored since she obviously believes you to be worthy of her efforts!
If you are worried abuot your own "reactions", remember this is now your DAUGHTER! Also, being nude is not at all related to sex. You say you are new to nudism, so you may be able to excuse yourself from wrestling nude with her from that angle. Of course, if you simply view it as a sport, or childish play, and not a sexual game, it should keep any 'reactions' under control.
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Somebody needs to be the grown-up. Why do you allow yourself to be taunted? "I'm not wrestling and no I don't have to explain myself." Go wrestle one of the other "children". She'll get the message. Move on.Comment
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Maybe I'm dense but, like TXK Nude, I'm not sure what advice you want. What is it you're asking?
Since she's only 15, and you're an adult, you should simply let her know that it isn't proper for you to be wrestling with her. Your hands or her hands could end up touching body parts that they shouldn't. You didn't say if you wrestle nude or clothed, but an adult man wrestling nude with a 15-year-old girl is not right. What if you get aroused? What if she says something to a friend or a teacher about your wrestling together and you getting aroused?
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Are you CRAZY? In this day and age you're close enough to hot water just having nude teenagers around the house -- don't get deeper by touching ANY of them ANYWHERE. Seriously, just having one of those kids tell his/her best friend about the neat way they live -- and having that "friend" tell a teacher -- will land you in enough trouble to last you a long, long time. Sure, you'll probably get out of it as a "second generation nudist" but do you really want the hassle? Anyway, regardless of your nude lifestyle, HANDS OFF!Comment
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I agree with others on the board here. If you don't want to wrestle her, just tell her. If she asks why, tell her that you just don't want to and leave it at that. No one should be forced to do something that they don't want to do and with you as the parent, your words hold a stronger meaning.
You need to get a backbone and "stand up" to your step-daughter. If you cannot tell her to stop "manhandling" you, what kind of parent would that make you? YOU are in control of the situation, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!
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I agree with the other folks that it is not appropriate for a step-dad and a female teen to wrestle each other. I don't care how long you've been a nudist, a grown man's libido is almost guaranteed to wake up in a situation like that. But let's reconsider why she wants to wrestle everyone. The death of a father or loss of one through divorce affects children in different ways. Maybe that's her way of dealing with the loneliness and stress. (Surely not the best way).
Maybe she just wants love, attention, and friendship. Wrestling is not appropriate for a step-dad, but what's the alternative? Being aloof? Of course not! She needs someone to listen to her, spend time with her, someone to bring her little surprise gifts once in a while. She needs a strong, kindly man to be a role model to her and share a little wisdom when she asks for it, (and sometimes before she requests it).Comment
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Let me just add something else. I don't believe there is anything wrong with a father/step-father wrestling his dusghter/stepdaughter, nude or not. One shouldn't be made to feel guilty because he likes to horse around with his children in the nude. To think otherwise is to go against the ideas of nudism.
The only reason why I suggested to this man that he not wrestle his stepdaughter is because he doesn't want to. If he feels any hint that her horsing around is in any way sexually based, he should talk with his wife about his concerns.
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