A common theme in naturist discussions is concern that we not make someone else uncomfortable by our preference for letting the clothes go. That concern is understandable, and I think we should always be thoughtful of others.
Except that I've found that, when I'm hesitating to do anything because I don't want to make someone uncomfortable, it's useful to ask myself, "Who is it that I'm protecting?" Surprisingly often the answer turns out to be that I'm just protecting myself from some imaginary response that may never happen, and if it does it wouldn't be that bad anyway.
So, for instance, for those who have said in other threads that they wear their clothes to bed in order to avoid making their roommate uncomfortable, try asking yourself, "Who am I really protecting?"
It used to be that occasionally I would need to share a hotel room with a friend, sometimes for several nights in a row. I always kept my shorts on because "I didn't want to make him uncomfortable." Finally I realized that my real concern was that I not be comfortable myself. So I just got into bed nude. He made a little joke about it, but was clearly not bothered and nothing further was ever said.
There are lots of other occasions when this is a helpful question. Give it a try.
Except that I've found that, when I'm hesitating to do anything because I don't want to make someone uncomfortable, it's useful to ask myself, "Who is it that I'm protecting?" Surprisingly often the answer turns out to be that I'm just protecting myself from some imaginary response that may never happen, and if it does it wouldn't be that bad anyway.
So, for instance, for those who have said in other threads that they wear their clothes to bed in order to avoid making their roommate uncomfortable, try asking yourself, "Who am I really protecting?"
It used to be that occasionally I would need to share a hotel room with a friend, sometimes for several nights in a row. I always kept my shorts on because "I didn't want to make him uncomfortable." Finally I realized that my real concern was that I not be comfortable myself. So I just got into bed nude. He made a little joke about it, but was clearly not bothered and nothing further was ever said.
There are lots of other occasions when this is a helpful question. Give it a try.
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