Accepting a C-Section scar

[Chris43402]

Hello,

I am a male nudist who has recently started going to various resorts. My girl friend is a nudist within her home. She's reluctant to go to any resorts due to a c-section scar from the birth of her dtr a few years ago. I would appreciate hearing from mature men and women on how I can help her overcome this. Thanks.

[Chris43402]

Hello,

I am a male nudist who has recently started going to various resorts. My girl friend is a nudist within her home. She's reluctant to go to any resorts due to a c-section scar from the birth of her dtr a few years ago. I would appreciate hearing from mature men and women on how I can help her overcome this. Thanks.

[NudeAl]

Positive reinforcement of how good she looks from you of course will help.

Letting her know that she can remain clothed or semi-clothed in most nude situations. Showing her pictures from nudist publications of other women who have these and other scars. I have seen women who have had mastectomies and they still feel confident enough to go nude. I'm sure the scar is more in how she perceives herself than how others will see her.

You might look into buying her some of those colorful wraps and shawls, pareos etc. There are tons of creative ways to use a yard or so of fabric and still remain essentially nude. She needs to know she will not be judged by others there, this isn't a beauty contest, no one will care that she has this scar except her. Goodluck

[jon71]

My only daughter was born in a c-section. Tell her that it's a wonderful thing (parenthood) and not to worry about it. No one worthwhile would give her a hard time over the scar.

[FireProf]

My wife also has a C-section scar from our youngest daughter, who is now 27 years old.

In our travels to beaches, clubs and resorts, we have seen many, many women with this scar and several others. A women who posts here and on other nudist message boards put this issue into the best words I've seen......."your scars are part of your road map of your life."

What makes nudism so great is that the vast majority of nudists don't concern themselves with what the outside looks like, we are more interested in who's inside.

Though I have been fortunate to not have many and have to undergo the anxiety of a biopsy, skin cancer removal, a C-section or any other types of procedures that would leave a scar, my wife has and has been able to enjoy her life and her nudist lifestyle because she has witnessed many other women and men with these same road maps.

[naturush]

I might go through the same thing in November, as my first child is due then, a c-section is very possible. I'll let everyone know.

[Cheri]

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Originally posted by Chris43402:
Hello,

I am a male nudist who has recently started going to various resorts. My girl friend is a nudist within her home. She's reluctant to go to any resorts due to a c-section scare from the birth of her dtr a few years ago. I would appreciate hearing from mature men and women on how I can help her overcome this. Thanks.

Nudists do accept others for who they are. The scars on our bodies are just the roadmap of who we are. One nudist friend while visiting him in the hospital,pulled up his gown to show off his recent surgery. When another friend was in the hosptial for chemotherapy, it was easier to help her wash her hair/head after the chemo in the shower.

Regards,Cheri

[DoctorSurferDude]

About 25-30% of births these days are from C-section. Most women have more than one child. So....not only is there a chance you'll see other women with a c-secton scar, but you'll see a bunch.

It's really not an issue in the nudist community. But since it is to her....maybe a sarong would give her some coverage for the first few minutes...until she sees that a lot of the ladies have the same scar.

[Buff Man in MI]

You should be able to tell from the posts so far that no one at a nudist resort would even notice. If it's a "bikini-line" scar, it will generally be hidden from view anyway.

I've seen all kinds of scars on nudists and none of them are generally topics of discussion, not even whispered about out of ear-shot. I've known nudists with scars that go almost all the way around their body from front to back. I have known nudist women with scars from breast reduction surgery and from breast englargement surgery. Every nudist (every human) has one scar for their entire life, their belly button.

[Guest]

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Nudists do accept others for who they are.

And there are several posts right on this board, made just in the past week that blows that line right out of the water.

Can we get real here?

[DoctorSurferDude]

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Originally posted by Cyndiannaked:
And there are several posts right on this board, made just in the past week that blows that line right out of the water.

Can we get real here?

"This board" is not reality. Many opinions are expressed freely and once in a while without discretion. But when asked, many of us do our best to describe the consensus of nudism.

Please do a search on the topic of "scars" if you want a consensus.

[SLNudeCouple]

Child birth is a fabulous event. I seriously doubt that true nudist will even notice. I'm sure there are numerous men and some women with the telltale zipper down the chest for open heart surgery. Not a problem. Encourage her.

[Guest]

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Originally posted by DoctorSurferDude:

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Originally posted by Cyndiannaked:
And there are several posts right on this board, made just in the past week that blows that line right out of the water.

Can we get real here?

"This board" is not reality. Many opinions are expressed freely and once in a while without discretion. But when asked, many of us do our best to describe the consensus of nudism.

Do you feel it's different than a consensus of people in general? I don't.

This board is nothing but words from nudists after all.

And I know of a few incidents where nudists were not so accepting of others, in real life, not online. Are we really any better than your average person? You may want to think so but the proof is in our very own words.

[NudeAl]

Hey cindi thanks for being that black cloud that gets in the way of my little ray of sunshine.

In my experience most nudists are genuine friendly people. Not any better than most others but still not the kind of folks to make snide little remarks about the way a person looks, at least none of the clubs and resorts I've gone to. I think you may be giving out a teensy bit of a negative vibe here, just a little tiny bit.

[BackpackerBrian]

People are people. Nudists are people. So perhaps some nudists will have negative reactions to a C-section scar, most lilkely out of their own insecurity.

However, in my experience as a nudist since 1992, I can't say that I've ever seen where a C-section, or any other scar, has resulted in someone being shunned.

At any club you will see people with scars. Given the popularity of C-sections, you will probably see a C-section scar.

Naturally I also speak as an "outisder" as I have never had a C-section. Perhaps a woman here in the forum, who has had a C-section, could shed some light on this better than I.

But I hope this helps. If she tries it out, chances are good she won't be the only one there with a C-sction scar.