I have to ask !!!!

[DJ Guy Productions]

A Dear friend of mine asked me yesterday and I did not really know the answer to this,

If you or your spouse was not a nudist and had not been into the nudist lifestyle. Would you care or your spouse care if guests at a beach or nudist resort ever saw you naked, would that be considered private between the 2 of you ??

Just very curious because over all I have been a nudist for 20yrs now.

And this was something I did not know what to say back


Thank you all

Kristopher

[DJ Guy Productions]

A Dear friend of mine asked me yesterday and I did not really know the answer to this,

If you or your spouse was not a nudist and had not been into the nudist lifestyle. Would you care or your spouse care if guests at a beach or nudist resort ever saw you naked, would that be considered private between the 2 of you ??

Just very curious because over all I have been a nudist for 20yrs now.

And this was something I did not know what to say back


Thank you all

Kristopher

[john771]

Very good question...

I personally wouldn't mind if anyone saw my wife naked, as long as the person seeing her had no bad intentions. To be honest, tho, I'm not sure how my wife would feel if someone was seeing me naked.

[nudenwv]

my wife is not a nudist. we have gone on two occasions to a nudist lodge. she did not think anything of being around other nude males. it didn't bother me either as i was nude around other nude females. we are comfortable with each others lifestyles.

[DJ Guy Productions]

John I understand where you are coming from, I guess what I felt bad about trying to answer is that most people that are not nudists, may feel that the love of their life, is exposing their body to the world and they may only want that to be something between the 2 of them.

Just a thought I had,

Kristopher

quote:

Originally posted by john771:
Very good question...

I personally wouldn't mind if anyone saw my wife naked, as long as the person seeing her had no bad intentions. To be honest, tho, I'm not sure how my wife would feel if someone was seeing me naked.

[DJ Guy Productions]

Keith did your wife ever become a nudist or just feel better being around others in the private nudist resort itself ?

I think it's great that she goes with you on occasion as you stated.


Kristopher

quote:

Originally posted by keith bricker:
my wife is not a nudist. we have gone on two occasions to a nudist lodge. she did not think anything of being around other nude males. it didn't bother me either as i was nude around other nude females. we are comfortable with each others lifestyles.

[FireProf]

Honestly..... I guess if we weren't nudists, then, yes....it would probably bother me and my wife if someone where to see us nude. I don't think we'd be any different than most of those that ask me time and time again, after finding out we are nudists, "doesn't it bother you for someone else to see your wife naked?"

It's actually hard to answer in that we were been home nudists for over 25 years before venturing into social nudism and being around other nude people. I've loved being nude for so long, I'm not sure what I would think or feel. We are both greatful for one thing......being nudists, so we don't have to worry about it!

[missouriboy]

Everyone is protective of their relationship with their S.O. because it's just human nature; it stems from possessiveness and competition. However, the activities which evoke this response will vary in different cultures, and with individuals within a culture. Just a short list would be:
Talking
Looking (seeing)
Dancing
Touching
Being alone with, out of sight of oneself
Etc, etc, ad infinitum.

For a given individual, or couple, it could be any one, or any combination of things. For non-nudists, Seeing is a biggie, reserved for intimacy, as a benefit earned by having "won" your spouse. That's one of the biggest reasons for their compulsion to be clothed.

For nudists, Seeing the body is obviously not on their list, though many of the other things can, and will, be. Nudists have discarded the emotion of possessiveness about the light rays that reflect from their spouse's skin. But watch out, they still claim the skin itself!

Did you read the long multi-page topic started by Sad Eyes? It's all about the contention that occurs when Seeing is on one spouse's list, but not the other.

[NudeAl]

In the begining my wife did have a big problem with my being seen nude, that and she always assumed that it was somehow a sex thing. So she was very hurt and upset everytime I would go. I think she expressed this idea to me on one occaision. I just didn't get it, I couldn't see how my being nude in front of others was cheating. I tried to explain to her that it wasn't like that but what I was failing to see was that in her eyes it was. So being sensetive to your spouses feelings can help. But you have t be true to your own feelings as well.

I would never be able to stop going to nude resorts and nude beaches not even if my relationship suffered for it. At this stage in my life I simply couldn't put that aspect of my life back in the closet. Eventually she did come to understand my point and now she even goes with me and will usually go nude though sometimes just topfree depending on how she feels.

[shãybare]

Thanks for sharing a great story NudeAl. I am glad your wife is able to share some of your lifestyle. Too many times, wifes will not even try.

IF I were a textile I would probably mind if some other men saw my wife nude and I would feel very uncomfortable with women seeing me nude. That is because I would have a completely different outlook toward nudity than a nudist.

[Nudony]

Interesting responses. Personally, I have never really cared about others seeing my girlfriends nude, even in my pre-nudist days. I'm sure this can be linked to having grown up in France, where toplessness was common and nudity not so rare. I dated and befriended a few girls in high school, most of which went topless; so I guess I was "trained" to accept my female friends and girlfriends being openly "exposed."

[Trailscout]

Nudony,
At it's worst, jealousy has caused some men to worry that other men will admire their women while they are (fully dressed) in the grocery store, church, at work.

If it remains at a respectful distance, admiration of beauty is harmless and natural.

Nudity is regarded as "for your eyes only" among many textiles. I don't think that custom is helpful to the couples who live that way.

Nudity is comfortable in mild weather and puts our bodies in more intimate contact with the natural world we inhabit. I prefer to live in a society that does not sexualize simple nudity and allows us to live without the sensory deprivation of clothing.

Nudity is shocking to those who rarely or never see it, but it is, after all, the normal human condition and folks would be surprized how quickly we can adapt to it. Nudity is normal!
...........................................
Nudism not about seeing others or being seen, it is about BEING.

[DJ Guy Productions]

Al I can understand where your coming from the other thing I forgot to mention too, for all of us, Would it affect us in regards to our relationships, at an intimate level where we are showing others our body's that the spouse would want as something special for just the 2 of you. ?


Kristopher

quote:

Originally posted by NudeAl:
In the begining my wife did have a big problem with my being seen nude, that and she always assumed that it was somehow a sex thing. So she was very hurt and upset everytime I would go. I think she expressed this idea to me on one occaision. I just didn't get it, I couldn't see how my being nude in front of others was cheating. I tried to explain to her that it wasn't like that but what I was failing to see was that in her eyes it was. So being sensetive to your spouses feelings can help. But you have t be true to your own feelings as well.

I would never be able to stop going to nude resorts and nude beaches not even if my relationship suffered for it. At this stage in my life I simply couldn't put that aspect of my life back in the closet. Eventually she did come to understand my point and now she even goes with me and will usually go nude though sometimes just topfree depending on how she feels.

[nudeM]

Interesting question, but if you were at a nudist resort, then who cares? Wouldn't you, and your friends, also be nude? I tend to think things would be rather startling at first, but eventually, you are there just as they, and that is to socialize in the nude.

Now, personally, a nude beach would be a different scenanrio, but the same applies. True, some may want to experience being around 'naked people' while remaining clothed, but seeing someone who you know enjoying themselves in the buff could be a shock, but then again, you are at a nude beach.

I don't think I would worry about anyone seeing my wife nude in a nudist setting, nor would she be 'fearful' of someone seeing me. I understand that being naked is a private matter between the two of you, but if you are seen at a nudist atmosphere, then there is no 'privacy'. Afterall, we are enjoying the same experience, and that is to enjoy the great outdoors, naked. Interesting question.

[DJ Guy Productions]

I appreciate all of the feedback from all of you, It's just when someone asks a question like this, I would rather get some great answers and different situations from all of you.


Thanks


Kristopher

quote:

Originally posted by nudeM:
Interesting question, but if you were at a nudist resort, then who cares? Wouldn't you, and your friends, also be nude? I tend to think things would be rather startling at first, but eventually, you are there just as they, and that is to socialize in the nude.

Now, personally, a nude beach would be a different scenanrio, but the same applies. True, some may want to experience being around 'naked people' while remaining clothed, but seeing someone who you know enjoying themselves in the buff could be a shock, but then again, you are at a nude beach.

I don't think I would worry about anyone seeing my wife nude in a nudist setting, nor would she be 'fearful' of someone seeing me. I understand that being naked is a private matter between the two of you, but if you are seen at a nudist atmosphere, then there is no 'privacy'. Afterall, we are enjoying the same experience, and that is to enjoy the great outdoors, naked. Interesting question.