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    Hello everyone. I have a question I hope some of you can answer. My husband is keeping his nude life a secret from me. He has been spending many hours in front of the computer. If I happen to walk into the room he quickly goes to the home page. He is also checking out all kinds of nude pics. Do you think he may be looking for someone else, or am I just being paranoid? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img]

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    Hello everyone. I have a question I hope some of you can answer. My husband is keeping his nude life a secret from me. He has been spending many hours in front of the computer. If I happen to walk into the room he quickly goes to the home page. He is also checking out all kinds of nude pics. Do you think he may be looking for someone else, or am I just being paranoid? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img]

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    • #3
      I hope you can talk this out with him...Keeping secrets from each other is not good.. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

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      • #4
        quote:
        Originally posted by nuDDe:
        [qb]My husband is keeping his nude life a secret from me. He has been spending many hours in front of the computer. If I happen to walk into the room he quickly goes to the home page. He is also checking out all kinds of nude pics. Do you think he may be looking for someone else, or am I just being paranoid? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img] [/qb]
        In another thread you said "I was introduced to nudism by an expartner who kept lots of secrets from me. He would go by himself to nude beaches without asking me to go. He would also log on to porn sites for hours." So is this expartner the same person as your husband or do just attract secretive people?

        How do you know he's keeping his nude life secret from you? If you know about it then he's not very good at keeping secrets.

        Rik

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        • #5
          NuDDe,
          Honesty is the best policy... be honest with us please. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img] Naturism is honest and wholesome, if this person... husband or ex... wants to venture into the nude way of life and you haven't tried it, I would suggest you do. Get rid of your fears and jealosy and get naked. It is not a sexual thing... It is a freedom thing!!! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif[/img]

          Rik,
          Nice job catching that. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

          Nudity Rules!!!
          [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img] Suntied [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]

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          • #6
            Secrets aren't good for any relationship. When he's looking at naked pictures, what is the subject? Is he interested in the nudist lifestyle, or is it pornography? If you don't know the answers, is it because you haven't asked or you're afraid of what you might find out. If you're in a "serious" relationship, communication is key, if you ask the questions and your partner avoids the subject then Yeah, I be worried. I hope I'm not upsetting you, I've been through enough in my life to tell you the importance of honesty. It's been my experience that one lie, or secret is usually an indicator that there's more where that came from.

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            • #7
              Let me explain, I had an ex. Now I
              m married to someone who is also into nudist life. Maybe I do just attract the strange men. I like being nude just as much as anyone here, but I don't get a thrill out of looking at nude photos for hours on end. Thanks for all the input. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif[/img]

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              • #8
                nuDDe..Just a word possibly in your husbands defense...This site is addictive...I probably spend way to much time here...time that my wife would much rather I spend doing the things that must be done to keep a family going. I ve tried to give it up a couple of times but keep coming back.Should I quit cold turkey? I dont think I could just limit my time.Im also a very slow beginning typer.Sorry it turned out more than just a [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img] word.

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                • #9
                  quote:
                  Originally posted by outdoorbare:
                  [qb]nuDDe..Just a word possibly in your husbands defense...This site is addictive...I probably spend way to much time here...time that my wife would much rather I spend doing the things that must be done to keep a family going. I ve tried to give it up a couple of times but keep coming back.Should I quit cold turkey? I dont think I could just limit my time.Im also a very slow beginning typer.Sorry it turned out more than just a [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img] word.[/qb]
                  So very true

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                  • #10
                    quote:
                    Originally posted by nuDDe:
                    [qb]Let me explain, I had an ex. Now I
                    m married to someone who is also into nudist life. Maybe I do just attract the strange men. I like being nude just as much as anyone here, but I don't get a thrill out of looking at nude photos for hours on end. Thanks for all the input. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif[/img] [/qb]
                    I'm still not sure I understand... is the problem with the nudism or is the problem with the man gawking over naked ladies. If your man is doing that, he is not into nudism. Nudism has nothing to do with porn. Is he pornism, or nudism? The "Photoes of Freedom" are not porn, but they helped me to get used to nakedness before I ventured out into the social nudism side of naturism. I looked at the pictures to free my mind of sexual thoughts towards the female body, not to encourage those thoughts. Is he encouraging his sexual fantacies, or simply getting used to the idea of nudity? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img]

                    What is the problem? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img]

                    Just trying to help!
                    [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img] Suntied [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]

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                    • #11
                      Wish I knew what the problem was. He doesn't communicate with me very much. I believe he is into porn sites. We're both mid 40's, could it be a midlife crisis? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_frown.gif[/img]

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                      • #12
                        The solution is to talk about it,deeply so to get to the ROOT of the problem.

                        My wife and I have been married for over 15 years and we talk about everything, I do mean everything. Even if it is uncomfortable, It is the key to a good relationship.

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                        • #13
                          Hey nuDDe, I don't have a sugnificant other, I wish I did, my life is keeping secrets from myself, kidding of course. No spouse should have a secret world, if you are both nudists, your lives should be easy, share nudist sites, share, your nudist expeireinces, does he use this site, or just you, get him in here, we are not phychologists, obviously, I can't even spell, but here we are a friendly group, with many veiws, it would give both of you a chance to see this life style and some of the people in it , the people here are fun and a good bunch of people, we may disagree on some things, but you can take and leave what you want, everyone here has there own veiws, but all are honest. All are dedicated nudists.Come here get naked and talk to us and each other.

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                          • #14
                            Hi,

                            My advice is that if you believe your husband to be a 'nudist' and that he is curious about he lifestyle, talk to him about that first. If there is anyway you would be open to exploring nudism try it with him. It is something that can strengthen a relationship, sometimes. Nudism can be a form of "anti-porn".

                            I think many men, including myself, have a tendency to be facinated with the female body. Because of our social structure in america, for men, it is much more easy to be 'turned onto' porn as an unhealthy avenue. Nudism is a way to fully realize what the nude form is and the beauty and normalacy of it.

                            Growing up never able to satisfy the curiosity of what a woman is like often lends to, in my oppinion, a skewed form of psyciatric programing that makes males more suseptible to seek out the curiosity in privacy. I found that nudism educates in some ways. It allows the female body to be viewed as not strictly sexual, but human aswell.

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                            • #15
                              quote:
                              Originally posted by Fresh Air:
                              [qb]Hi,

                              My advice is that if you believe your husband to be a 'nudist' and that he is curious about he lifestyle, talk to him about that first. If there is anyway you would be open to exploring nudism try it with him. It is something that can strengthen a relationship, sometimes. Nudism can be a form of "anti-porn".

                              I think many men, including myself, have a tendency to be facinated with the female body. Because of our social structure in america, for men, it is much more easy to be 'turned onto' porn as an unhealthy avenue. Nudism is a way to fully realize what the nude form is and the beauty and normalacy of it.

                              Growing up never able to satisfy the curiosity of what a woman is like often lends to, in my oppinion, a skewed form of psyciatric programing that makes males more suseptible to seek out the curiosity in privacy. I found that nudism educates in some ways. It allows the female body to be viewed as not strictly sexual, but human aswell.[/qb]
                              Very well said fresh air, nuDDe read and reread this, and bring your husband to this site, we are all friends here. and
                              we will be here for both of you, We all have our own problems, but we can all say it helps being here. It's also a fun place to be.

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