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    This is more for the married men and women. Last Monday, May 19 I went to San Onolfre. Same day as the ‘forward homosexual man’ incident. Surprisingly, the crowd that day was about 50:50 male and female. Very strange for that beach and especially for a weekday. Nevertheless it was nice seeing so many couples enjoying nudism together and I wished my wife was with me. At one point these three younger girls came, seniors in high school or freshmen college age range. They stayed for about an hour or two. They were on the other end of the beach than I. (Which is sort of a good thing, given the topic I will raise).

    It seems so easy to get up and go for a walk and casually pass by, just to look. And it is often tempting to want to see such beautiful young bodies (for most guys). I didn’t, though. I try to imagine how I would act if my wife were with me. I’m there to enjoy the sun, surf, and tan, so I remind myself of that. Instead of peering from far away I fix my eyes on the waves or birds in the air, or just take little naps.

    At one point I had to go to the bathroom, everyone goes down this canyon place to go. This took my closer too, but not directly by them. Even so, I could see that they were looking at me, yet tried my best to ignore them. On the way back one was trying to take pictures of the other two with a digital camera or something and the two were rolling onto their stomachs trying to hide themselves from the third one. It kind of made me smile remembering the playfulness of that age (10 years ago for me). They were all very attractive and fit, but I still reminded myself not to stare or look anymore than I would with my wife at my side. I went back to my spot and they left sometime after.

    I see women looking at me sometimes. Some more than others. It doesn’t bother me. I’m not really even very bothered by men looking (though staring is more than looking). If I was single the situation might be different, I might approach women more to befriend them (though, not likely, I’m shy). But being married I tend to avoid them all together, for principles sake. If I talk, it’s to other men.

    My questions are:

    What do you, personally, do in that situation?
    What is the right thing to do?
    What are the varying views of what is right/appropriate and wrong/inappropriate?
    What would be expected of a married person by you? (singles)
    Is privacy always the best medicine?
    Can this be taken as being unfriendly?

    Thanks,

    Fresh Air

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    This is more for the married men and women. Last Monday, May 19 I went to San Onolfre. Same day as the ‘forward homosexual man’ incident. Surprisingly, the crowd that day was about 50:50 male and female. Very strange for that beach and especially for a weekday. Nevertheless it was nice seeing so many couples enjoying nudism together and I wished my wife was with me. At one point these three younger girls came, seniors in high school or freshmen college age range. They stayed for about an hour or two. They were on the other end of the beach than I. (Which is sort of a good thing, given the topic I will raise).

    It seems so easy to get up and go for a walk and casually pass by, just to look. And it is often tempting to want to see such beautiful young bodies (for most guys). I didn’t, though. I try to imagine how I would act if my wife were with me. I’m there to enjoy the sun, surf, and tan, so I remind myself of that. Instead of peering from far away I fix my eyes on the waves or birds in the air, or just take little naps.

    At one point I had to go to the bathroom, everyone goes down this canyon place to go. This took my closer too, but not directly by them. Even so, I could see that they were looking at me, yet tried my best to ignore them. On the way back one was trying to take pictures of the other two with a digital camera or something and the two were rolling onto their stomachs trying to hide themselves from the third one. It kind of made me smile remembering the playfulness of that age (10 years ago for me). They were all very attractive and fit, but I still reminded myself not to stare or look anymore than I would with my wife at my side. I went back to my spot and they left sometime after.

    I see women looking at me sometimes. Some more than others. It doesn’t bother me. I’m not really even very bothered by men looking (though staring is more than looking). If I was single the situation might be different, I might approach women more to befriend them (though, not likely, I’m shy). But being married I tend to avoid them all together, for principles sake. If I talk, it’s to other men.

    My questions are:

    What do you, personally, do in that situation?
    What is the right thing to do?
    What are the varying views of what is right/appropriate and wrong/inappropriate?
    What would be expected of a married person by you? (singles)
    Is privacy always the best medicine?
    Can this be taken as being unfriendly?

    Thanks,

    Fresh Air

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    • #3
      I guess when I am at a nude beach I try to imagine what I would do if Everyone was dressed.
      Certainly I wouldn't stare at anyone. I don't stare at people in many other situations. That doesn't mean I don't give a second look when I see an attractive gal. I think that's only human.
      On the other hand. Being a Camera Buff I just might offer to take a picture of the 3 of them with their camera. I do that quite often when I'm in a Clothed enviroment. I wouldn't see anything wrong with it in a Nude enviroment either.
      If I happened to be walking by , like you described, on my way to somewhere, and they looked my way I would atleast say Hi or smile and nod my head. Just because we're on a nude beach doesn't mean we should shy away from everyone out of fear that they might think the wrong thing.
      I guess I just assume that a person that is nude on a nude beach, out in the public, is probably comfortable seeing other people nude. And since I enjoy talking to people I would probably atleast say Hi and see if they were interested in starting a conversation. A person can usually tell pretty quick if other people want to be left alone or not.

      What fun is social nudity if you don't socialize?

      Steve

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      • #4
        quote:
        What do you, personally, do in that situation?
        What is the right thing to do?
        What are the varying views of what is right/appropriate and wrong/inappropriate?
        What would be expected of a married person by you? (singles)
        Is privacy always the best medicine?
        Can this be taken as being unfriendly?

        I wear dark sunglasses.... [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]

        Seriously, how in the world would I know you are married from all that distance away (assuming you wear a ring)?

        I don't mind socializing with men on the beach. Some do, just read their reactions as you walk by and give them a smile and maybe a hello. I hate it when men feel they have to act differently towards others because they are in a nudist situation. Sometimes I understand it when it is at a resort because some of them do treat men who are alone more harsh than the others. On the beach there is no excuse though. Just be yourself!

        BTW I am a people watcher so I do wear dark glasses so I can stare all I want without anyone being made uncomfortable.

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        • #5
          "I guess when I am at a nude beach I try to imagine what I would do if Everyone was dressed."

          Great advice, Nude in the North. After all, aren't we trying to prove that nudity is normal? What better way to do so than to act as if it were? Which it is. So there you are!

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          • #6
            Another good topic for us newbies. I try to be as personable as always. As stated, we are there to enjoy ourselves and others who think as we do. The more people we meet, the easier it to realte to everyone. Isn't that why forums like this exsist? I appriciate everyones input on issues like this.

            THANKS!

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            • #7
              Think of baseball.

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              • #8
                i would have offered to take a picture of the three of them. i do this all the time at zoos, parks, etc. so why not when in a public nude environment. someone was kind enough to take a picture of my wife and i at haulover and at sunsport when we were there so we finally have a picture of the two of us together. i will post that one here shortly.

                by the way, i like to watch attractive men and women as well. i think it is natural, wether they are clothed or not. JUST DON'T STARE!!!

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                • #9
                  I might have offered to take their picture if I was nearer. But I was hardly within ear shot and didn't want to walk over there uninvited and take a chance at ruining the fun they were having.

                  I do appreciate the replies though. It has helped me think about how to handle any future situations.

                  Fresh Air

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                  • #10
                    No offense meant, but why wasn't your wife with you?

                    Not suggesting this is bad, I'm just wondering.

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                    • #11
                      My wifes rule...I can look all I want...(with dark glasses)...Thanks Cyndiann....but NO TOUCHING...Works for us. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]

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                      • #12
                        No offense, but I have a hard time with people who stop and stare [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_mad.gif[/img] ...with having nipples that have a way of getting attention (several guys have walked by, even asked if they can suck on them...like I was in need of someone to take care of my sexual needs... NOT!!!!

                        And prefering to go to a state park where the admission is within my budget at the moment...I get really peeved [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_mad.gif[/img] at those who think that just because I do have a nice body I too must want company...most of the time I like to go and just read a book [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                        I confess there are times that I enjoy company but not not for sexual means...I may be single but at this point not desperate for sex...no offense...but that is another reason the good Lord Created Vibrators...much safer than getting it on with someone one has just met who has who knows what.

                        I too am a sun lover [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img] and not just someone who is open to sharing my body with everyone [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_mad.gif[/img] ...like many others I have met on the beach and other areas...so just because we are attractive doesn't mean we are in need of having someone give us extra attention in the wrong way...don't get me wrong...I for one enjoy a Great looking body but staring at it isn't something I find appropriate for anyone [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_mad.gif[/img]

                        So my advise to everyone, is if you are gonna look...don't linger to long if that is your only intention...who knows what little weapon someone will have hidden in their little black bag...like my special friends "Mr. Mace" or even "Mr. Cell Phone" [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

                        Greensunshine in the Pacific NW [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

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                        • #13
                          Big Bird,

                          She was working that day. But, I'm still working on getting her open to the idea of going also. I've written about that in other posts. Presently, nudism is not something we can both enjoy together all the time. She has come along way though, and is much more understanding than in the past.

                          Fresh Air

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                          • #14
                            I saw this thread several days ago, and up until yesterday my reply would have been "just treat beautiful women like everyone else"... but this is today.

                            Yesterday I was at a local resort I attend and had a wonderful day in the sun. After getting a little more sun than I should have, I decided I needed to take a break and went to sit on the patio at a picnic table, same spot I always sit at to take a break in the shade. Only this time, there was an attractive couple (had been there most of the day) sunning themselves about 10 feet from the patio. I did my utmost to look elsewhere, but a couple of times, my eyes did wander to the attractive blonde not far away. Not staring, but just casual glances. About 10-15 minutes later, they packed up and headed back toward the campground, but then noticed that they had only gone to their campsite (with a deck) and continued to sun themselves. They didn't really have a trailer there, just a fullsize conversion van parked where a trailer would have been.

                            At first, I didn't think much about it, but then later couldn't help but wonder if I was the reason they moved. And now this morning I'm wondering if perhaps they might have turned in a complaint about this since I'm a single male. I'm probably just being paraniod, but I can see where an innocent situation could turn really bad. (Sorry this is getting long, but I'm getting to my point).

                            The more I think about this, I've concluded that beautiful women are going to be looked at more often in any situation, clothed or not. But in a nudist environment, especially in regards to single males, they hold a certain power that most of us would hope they exercise wisely. As for myself, I'm a little wiser to this situation and will be positioning myself a little further from the "beautiful people" to head off any potential for unwarranted complaints. It's unfortunate that I can't be myself and go as I please, but I think it goes with the territory of being a single male in a nudist environment where single males are looked upon a little differently and need to keep my guard up.

                            I'd be interested in anyone else's thoughts on this...

                            Cheers [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

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                            • #15
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                              Originally posted by Fresh Air:
                              [qb] Big Bird,

                              She was working that day. But, I'm still working on getting her open to the idea of going also. I've written about that in other posts. Presently, nudism is not something we can both enjoy together all the time. She has come along way though, and is much more understanding than in the past.

                              Fresh Air [/qb]
                              I don't understand! 'I'm still working on getting her open to the idea of going also'. Your wife not a nudist? Did she know you were going there??

                              If your wife knew you were going to a nude beach, and be nude yourself, she would know you would be seeing nude women too. So if she was ok with you going, she should be ok with you looking.

                              Stare or breif glance would be be same for your wife I would think, if she has reservations herself about going to a nude beach, she would have reservations about you looking at nude women.

                              Do you feel the same way about looking a women at a shopping mall? Should be no difference.

                              If your wife has a problem with you looking at naked women, then she probably has a problem with you going to the nude beach in the first place. You need to talk to her, even if she says 'its ok to go', she still may not perfer it.

                              Just trying to help! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

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