Family Nudism

[dirtft83]

About ten months ago I was reunited with my two daughters from a previous marriage that I had not seen or known for 23 years. My oldest daughter is 29 with four children and the younger one is 25 and two children.

I have become very close with them and see the 25 year old almost every weekend but only because she lives closer. The older one is several hours away but we talk on the phone a couple times a week. We met as adults and are very comfortable with each other. We can talk about anything without fear or embarrassment. My 25 year old and I have often gotten on to the subject of nudity and nudist lifestyles. She is open to this and says she would not have any problems with being nude at a beach or resort with me, although she has never tried this at any time in her life. My older daughter knows nothing of this and probably would be totally against it in any form. She is rather prudish and as different as night and day from her sister.

Unbeknownst to me, my 25 year old daughter approached her husband about it at her home. She asked him if he would be willing to try it sometime at a nude beach with his parents. He emphaticately said no-way! She should have asked him if he would try it with her two children and me (not his parents). He and I are also good friends and comfortable with each other. I guess it is because we all met as adults and I had nothing to do with her childhood upbringing.

I am currently divorced and have two children at home with me. He is 19 and she is 17. We have never approached the subject of nudism and wouldn't know where or how to begin. They neither know anything about the discussions of it with their step-sister.

I have experienced nude beaches and resorts in Europe many years ago and enjoyed the freedom very much. I am nude at home whenever possible and no-one else is there. I love being nude as often as possible, especially outdoors. I am 54 years old and want to live the lifestyle of my choosing before it is to late.

Anyone out there have a simular delimma and care to help?

[dirtft83]

About ten months ago I was reunited with my two daughters from a previous marriage that I had not seen or known for 23 years. My oldest daughter is 29 with four children and the younger one is 25 and two children.

I have become very close with them and see the 25 year old almost every weekend but only because she lives closer. The older one is several hours away but we talk on the phone a couple times a week. We met as adults and are very comfortable with each other. We can talk about anything without fear or embarrassment. My 25 year old and I have often gotten on to the subject of nudity and nudist lifestyles. She is open to this and says she would not have any problems with being nude at a beach or resort with me, although she has never tried this at any time in her life. My older daughter knows nothing of this and probably would be totally against it in any form. She is rather prudish and as different as night and day from her sister.

Unbeknownst to me, my 25 year old daughter approached her husband about it at her home. She asked him if he would be willing to try it sometime at a nude beach with his parents. He emphaticately said no-way! She should have asked him if he would try it with her two children and me (not his parents). He and I are also good friends and comfortable with each other. I guess it is because we all met as adults and I had nothing to do with her childhood upbringing.

I am currently divorced and have two children at home with me. He is 19 and she is 17. We have never approached the subject of nudism and wouldn't know where or how to begin. They neither know anything about the discussions of it with their step-sister.

I have experienced nude beaches and resorts in Europe many years ago and enjoyed the freedom very much. I am nude at home whenever possible and no-one else is there. I love being nude as often as possible, especially outdoors. I am 54 years old and want to live the lifestyle of my choosing before it is to late.

Anyone out there have a simular delimma and care to help?

[Guest]

I'm 57 with two grown daughters (aged 29 and 32) and four grandkids. My daughters, particularly the older one, were shocked to learn their dad joined a nudist club (not a resort).

They would never go with me and won't allow me to take the grandkids. I guess I just wanted to find out their reaction to my being a nudist. Of course, their mother wasn't at all surprised. I never wore clothes in the home when we were together--I'm divorced, and we separated when the older girl was less than 3-years-old. The older girl was used to seeing mu nude, but that quickly changed after she turned 8. Then she didn't want to see me nude any more.

I wish I had been raised as a nudist and could have raised my daughters as nudists, as well as taking my grandkids to the resort where I go now, but it's too late for any of that. I can't snatch my grandkids and take them to the resort against their parents' wishes--not if I want to stay on friendly terms with my daughters. They never come to my home since they know I will be nude.

[Trailscout]

Jon-Marc,

You can't take all the blame for your daughters stubborn refusal to accept the normal natural human condition.

I met a kindly grandpa one day at Cypress Cove. He had raised his daughter as a nudist, but one day she fell in love with some guy who was full of pompous religion and married him. Her husband convinced her that nudity was sinful. Her father was very sad that this man had robbed her of the joy and comfort of simple nudity and not only that the grandkids were being raised with body shame. He asked himself where he had gone wrong that she would reject her nudist upbringing.

Of course I didn't have an answer for that, but I do believe that you shouldn't beat yourself up if your children won't listen to reason.

Your daughters should have enough respect to at least listen to your opinion and consider it. After all if you became a nudist in your fifties, why should they be more slow to adopt change for the better than you?

[Guest]

My younger daughter, Mary, is the mother of my four grandkids. The older one has none at this time, but then she married at age 31. Mary is raising her kids to be VERY modest around each other. She even takes the baby into the bathroom and closes the door to change his diaper for fear that her daughter might see his penis, I guess, and realize that boys are built different and ask questions that Mary doesn't want to answer.

I have to laugh at people's efforts to "protect" children from the "harmful" exposure of a naked body.

[Croydon]

I think everyone is going overboard here. Jon, if your daughter isn't into nudism, then she isn't into it. That is her belief, her ideology and should be respected. I never try to convince my friends to go nude with me or attend nude outings with me. If may invite them and if they say no, then that is the end of the topic. Had you raised your daughters as nudist, I am 95% sure they would have made a transition back to textile world since MANY MANY people raised in nudist family end up leaving the lifestyle. That being said, it makes no difference whether you raised them as nudist years ago. As for her not wanting you to take the grand children to a nudist resort, she is the parent in this situation and however she chooses to raise her children is her choice and that too should be respected

[Guest]

Croydon,

I'm not trying to convince anyone that they should try nudism. I'm not trying to get my daughter to let me take my grandkids. I was simply lamenting the fact that they will never know that there is NO reason to be ashamed of their bodies, and that nudity is natural. All I did was mention that I had joined a nudist club. I didn't invite them to go because I knew they wouldn't. I'm not trying to undermine their rights as the parents. As a granddad I have NO rights in saying how they raise their kids. Although I don't like the way they're teaching body shame to the kids (and it HAS to be taught since body shame isn't natural), there's nothing I can do about it.

[dirtft83]

I suppose some of you may have missed my delimma here. The 25 year old daughter with the two young
children says she would not have a problem with going nude with me and her family. It's her husband that is against it. How do we convince him?

Also, my other three children, ages 29, 19, and 17 are not aware of my desires since I have not discussed it with them nor do I know how to bring up the the subject.

I am afraid that some will think I am a pervert and I will lose my children and grandchildren, so soon after I have found them. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img]

[Falcon46]

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Originally posted by dirtft83:
[qb] I suppose some of you may have missed my delimma here. The 25 year old daughter with the two young
children says she would not have a problem with going nude with me and her family. It's her husband that is against it. How do we convince him?

Also, my other three children, ages 29, 19, and 17 are not aware of my desires since I have not discussed it with them nor do I know how to bring up the the subject.

I am afraid that some will think I am a pervert and I will lose my children and grandchildren, so soon after I have found them. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img] [/qb]

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Dirtft,
In my opinion, I think it might be best to let your daughter work on her husband's attitude toward attending a resort. Perhaps the two of them could try it first to see how it goes. In this way there wouldn't be any "family" pressure or concerns about seeing each other nude.

As far as the rest of the family? I'm not really in a position to comment much since I haven't told many others that I'm into this, but I've seen a few stories from others on here to know that there is a risk, and it's a matter of weighing that risk against your beliefs. Only you can answer this one. However, (and not to put more on your daughter) but I wonder if it would be of any help to hear this coming from her since she is closer to the age of the other children? I don't know... but I think it would be a help if she went a few times to get a better understanding in case the others ask a lot of questions, she'd at least be in a better position to explain things. One of the best suggestions I've seen here about this is: Go slow and don't push the issue. Unfortunately, I don't think there are any guarantees either way on how kids will react, which brings it back to whether the risk is worth the potential consequenses. I certainly sympathize with your situation and best of luck!

[dirtft83]

Thanks, Falcon46

I appreciate your comments and you are exactly right, I think. It probably would be better for my daughter and her husband to try it first. Why didn't I think of that? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

[Guest]

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Originally posted by dirtft83:
[qb] Thanks, Falcon46

I appreciate your comments and you are exactly right, I think. It probably would be better for my daughter and her husband to try it first. Why didn't I think of that? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] [/qb]

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[Guest]

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Originally posted by dirtft83:
[qb] Thanks, Falcon46

I appreciate your comments and you are exactly right, I think. It probably would be better for my daughter and her husband to try it first. Why didn't I think of that? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] [/qb]

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dirtft83

My wife and her daughter and husband are nudists and live in a wooded area where we can be nude outside as well. We love the freedom.

Perhaps your daughter could share the INA website with her husband to learn about why people enjoy it.

[Raised_by_She-Wolf]

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Originally posted by Jon-Marc:
[qb] My younger daughter, Mary, is the mother of my four grandkids. The older one has none at this time, but then she married at age 31. Mary is raising her kids to be VERY modest around each other. She even takes the baby into the bathroom and closes the door to change his diaper for fear that her daughter might see his penis, I guess, and realize that boys are built different and ask questions that Mary doesn't want to answer.

I have to laugh at people's efforts to "protect" children from the "harmful" exposure of a naked body. [/qb]

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What? Boys are built different?? Nuh-uh!! I thought they were different from girls because they have shorter hair and like to play with toy cars more!!