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**Naked In Florida** · 07-07-2003, 02:47 PM

Hey everyone, as most of you know I tried to go to Hauover 2x's before and got lost. Well this time I brought a friend along who I met here on the site and I guess when they say 3rd times the charm I guess there right. I was so happy I found it. And you know what, when I got lost last time, I drove right by it lol.

Ok now please humor me on this one. Yah I am 23yrs old but I really need some advice from everyone. I just want many views on what I'll ask. Ok well I am single and have never had much luck with the ladies, ok no luck at all. So I am not to good at talking with them. Well while I was at the beach today I happened to lay my eyes on this very very very cute girl who I was just dying to go over and talk to. But one thing is I wasnt sure how old she was, somewhere between 16-22 I'd say but I am very bad with ages. So on one hand I dont want to go and start talking to someone who is young and then I look bad. On the other hand say she is old enough, how do I approach her and not scare her off. I mean we are both naked but how do I make her know that I want to talk to her and not just want sex. I mean I am afraid of saying the wrong thing or doing something to offend her.

Damit all afternoon I have been thinking about her and I can get her off my mind. I will be regreting not talking to her because I really found her attractive and is it wrong of me to think she had a great butt. Of course I wouldnt tell her that right away as I know it could offend her. So what do I do when I go again and I see someone who I like and want to talk to without seeming like I am just some other horny male looking for sex. And before someone makes a smart remark, I am not out for sex, just someone who I can maybe meet and hang out with of the female sex in my age group.

Thanks for the help,

Evan

**florida-david** · 07-07-2003, 04:07 PM

HEY evan,

that's a difficult one. its hard enough to meet people on a beach, but to be on a nude beach and meet someone is even more difficult. i would say to see if you can get her involved in some sort of game you are playing (volleyball, frisbee, etc.). if that does not work, and she clearly blows you off, than there is your answer. you are not going to become friends with all the pretty girls at haulover. just keep trying, like you would if you both had clothes on.

i personally would not comment on anyones aesthetic, i have seen stories on this site or internaturally magazine about meeting people and they always suggest an innocent comment on the way someone looks. i think this is not a great way to start a relationship. "hey baby, you have a nice tan line" is pretty silly. maybe you should do whatever you normally do with girls/women and see how that works. i can not tell the age of people either...

i tried to meet at haulover with miami newdist this saturday, but my family and i got blown away by a big storm. maybe you can hook up with him?? i think he went sunday...

good luck [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

**Naked In Florida** · 07-07-2003, 04:39 PM

Thanks David!

**Falcon46** · 07-07-2003, 06:20 PM

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Originally posted by Naked In Florida:
[qb] So what do I do when I go again and I see someone who I like and want to talk to without seeming like I am just some other horny male looking for sex. [/qb]

Evan, your question is one that has baffled man since he started walking on two feet instead of four. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] And no I'm not making a smart *** remark... but you'll learn that some women will always see you as you described (I tend to think it's from sheer repitition where guys are always hitting on them). I have no idea if this is more prevalent on a nude beach, but I can see where it might be. (and ladies, before you start jumping all over me, I did not say ALL... k? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img] ) It would be great to get a females perspective on this... ladies? care to lend a hand here???

I don't know if you ever saw the movie "A Beautiful Mind" but there is a line from that movie that would seem to apply... "Each attempt increases the odds of success..." Now granted the context was slightly different, but I think the sentiment still applies. In other words, hang in there and be yourself. Many women can spot a phoney in the span of a few minutes (or less!) so don't come off like someone you're not. And relax! It ain't the end of the world, it's the beginning!

Cheers! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

**Naked In Florida** · 07-07-2003, 06:34 PM

Thanks Falcon, you gave me something to think about, and lol I like your smartass remark as I can be quite the smartass myself sometimes [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

**butnaked** · 07-07-2003, 10:20 PM

Evan, I do not claim to have the answers about "breaking the ice" but I find a real approach is best. This can be easy if you don't mind giving a little info. about yourself. ( Hi, I'm Evan I live in______ or I work______or I go to________school ect. are you from this area) Ya get the idea.
The most often mind-set is that you feel you are going to be rejected, but so what, step and make that new friend.
Happy Trails butnaked [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]

**Gary Naturist** · 07-08-2003, 12:20 AM

Hi, Evan. I'll recount a story that might give you some encouragement. A while ago I was at Wreck Beach in Vancouver, Canada's version of Haulover Beach.

Two gorgeous young women arrived, placed their towels near me, took off their clothes and lay down to sunbathe.

I'm a friendly type and wanted to chat with them, but they were so good looking I was sure that they would think that I was hitting on them (I was at least twice their age). So I didn't say anything.

A few minutes later a guy older than me sat down beside them and started to chat. I overheard the conversation. Turns out these two women were visiting from Scandinavia (I kid you not) and were delighted to have someone to chat with. I was sorry that I had been intimidated.

Guys hit on young women at clothing-optional beaches all the time. There's no guarantee that your prospective friend will talk to you if you approach her, but it's certain that she won't talk to you if you DON'T approach her.

Gary

**Prometheus** · 07-08-2003, 03:04 AM

Hmmm, let's see how this conversation might go...

"Hi, there, you have very beautiful... wait, I'm not supposed to look there... how about... no, can't look there either... Why don't we get together over dinner some time? Since I have no idea what you look like, it'll be like a blind date."

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**lovebeingnude** · 07-08-2003, 11:12 AM

How about this for an opener:

"Excuse me miss, this is kind of awkward, but would you mind helping me put sunscreen on my back?" [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]

Then strike up a conversation from there.

(but what do I know about meeting women - It took me 32 years to find Mrs. right)

**Naked In Florida** · 07-08-2003, 01:51 PM

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Originally posted by lovebeingnude:
[qb] How about this for an opener:

"Excuse me miss, this is kind of awkward, but would you mind helping me put sunscreen on my back?" [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img]

Then strike up a conversation from there.

(but what do I know about meeting women - It took me 32 years to find Mrs. right) [/qb]

Thanks, I just might try that next time!

**Naturist Mark** · 07-08-2003, 04:52 PM

Has it occurred to anybody that a nude beach is a terrible place to pick up women?

It is very rare for an unaccompanied woman to attend a social nudist event, resort or beach. The few that do often endure a constant line of guys (single or married) eager to offer them what they imagine they are missing. Some may welcome that, but it is what keeps many many women away. Is it any wonder that guys outnumber women on c/o beaches and resorts?

If you really want to impress them, don't bother them. Say hello and then mind your own business. If they want to meet a gentleman rather than one of the eager hounds they will find you.

-Mark

**canude** · 07-08-2003, 05:52 PM

Well Said Naturistmark1. I totally agree.

Instead of going after the girls, put yourself in a position where they can approach you.

if you sit close-by and throw a ball in the air and catch it yourself, they'll see you as someone who needs someone to play with, not someone hitting on them.

**David77** · 07-08-2003, 06:49 PM

I totally agree also!
I was thinking about the same thing as Naturistmark1.

**Jochanaan** · 07-08-2003, 06:59 PM

Given that it's rare to find an unattached woman at naturist beaches etc., still it might happen, as it did to our neophyte friend. What do more experienced naturists think about opening lines like: "Feels good to be naked today, doesn't it?"or, "Isn't that breeze wonderful?"

It seems that these or similar words would open the conversation by celebrating our mutual nakedness and thus establish grounds for friendship. But since I have no experience in this, I'll defer to those who have it.

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