dating question

[ethaneoin]

I am a single 31 yo male if you have read my bio then you know I am in nursing school, so dating has not been too much of a priority. Now that my graduation is looming I am seriously thinking about looking for friends or much more if the opportunity arises. I have been out of the dating scene for years (if I were ever really in it to begin with) and having trouble making a connection with anyone. The ladies at school are out because they are all married. I don't drink so bars are out and I am not active in a church. I have tried nudist dating sites like nudistfriends.com but it turns out that most of those people are pervs. I just don't know where to start. Do I look for a nudist or someone else and try to convert them? Anyone with advise would be of great help to me. HELP!

[ethaneoin]

I am a single 31 yo male if you have read my bio then you know I am in nursing school, so dating has not been too much of a priority. Now that my graduation is looming I am seriously thinking about looking for friends or much more if the opportunity arises. I have been out of the dating scene for years (if I were ever really in it to begin with) and having trouble making a connection with anyone. The ladies at school are out because they are all married. I don't drink so bars are out and I am not active in a church. I have tried nudist dating sites like nudistfriends.com but it turns out that most of those people are pervs. I just don't know where to start. Do I look for a nudist or someone else and try to convert them? Anyone with advise would be of great help to me. HELP!

[Tera]

My thoughts are people with things in common can make a relationship work.

saying that, I really don't think you should demand a nudist G/F because I think that pool is very small.

I would stay away from Chatlines and the like because I find you are drawing from the shallow end of the gene pool. Tennis clubs and the like make better sense.

Tera

[Sacramento Jesse]

Dude you have to go where your interests are. My interest is school, so it’s always great to meet a girl at school. About the whole "nudist" aspect, a female doesn't have to be a "nudist" right off the bat. Relationships are about growing, and maybe you can introduce her to nudism. I've met two girls whom I've been romantically involved with and introduced both of them to nudism. I doubt either one of them still practices nudism but the thing is they were willing to try it. Another thing, don't force someone to try something. I never forced anyone to do anything. If she was comfortable in doing it thats great, but if she wasn't then that is who she is. I'm not mad at that and I would never expect her to change.

And about you not drinking so you can't go to bars, you can go to bars and not partake by drinking liquor/alcohol. Sometimes when I go I don't drink. I go for the conversations. Good luck!

[Rabid_Clam]

I agree that doing those things that interest you are most important. Choose environments that include others and eventually you should find someone that shares those interests.

That is a huge part of a relationship is to share common interests. Bars is not your interest so finding someone that is interested in bars will be somone that is interested in something you are NOT interested in and there will be instant disparity.

Next you need to find someone who shares also the same goals you have. And that would be someone who is seeking a mate. Common interest and common goal, you are well on your way to where you would like to be in life.

Best of luck to you.

[luvnaturism]

Go with your interests that are more common to other people than naturism. Do you like to hike? Join a hiking club. Do you like to sing or play an instrument? Join a musical group. Are you interested in theatre? Volunteer at one. You get the idea.

Look for opportunities to connect with someone with whom you already have a shared interest, and then see what develops from there. As a relationship develops it's natural to share yourselves more openly, and that will be plenty of time to let it be known that you enjoy naturism.

And stick to your instincts about bars. Although it's true that soft drinks and mineral water are always available at bars, so you don't have to drink alcohol to go to one, it's best to be true to yourself.

[John P]

If it's really important to you to find a partner who'd share naturism with you, my suggestion is look for a woman who's got a liberal outlook, who's a good sport and who enjoys the outdoors. Actually a fair number of women probably wouldn't care to get involved with a male nurse, but those who would might be just the type of woman who'd also go for naturism.

It might help things along if you could be prepared with a little speech about what naturism means to you, how you see the human body as a part of nature (link with your profession here) and how you also reject the idea of "bodies that aren't good enough". Since so many women have worries over their attractiveness, this might be music to a lady's ears!

But I have to say that as far as the kind of woman I mentioned is concerned, Oklahoma may not be exactly the happy hunting ground, if you know what I mean.