To do or not to do, that is the question

[Mo]

I have a coworker who married a nudist. He was open-minded to the idea, and my wife and I helped him by answering questions he had about naturist life (he knew we are nudists already). He's since gone to a few nude beaches with his wife and enjoyed the experience. He seems very positive about the whole thing, but I've always known him to be somewhat of a randy fellow, and I'm not entirely convinced he can separate sex from nudity. We once tried to meet up at a beach, but traffic held them up, and we didn't get to check out his "nudist vibe", so to speak. But since the birth of our child, we have joined a club and don't go to beaches much anymore (too far). We'd like to invite him and his wife to the club as guests, but since we've never been in a nudist setting with them, I'm afraid he might do something improper. I don't mean something outright, mind you, like touching anyone or anything of the sort. But staring too long or something along those "milder" lines. I'd be willing to take that risk at a beach, but we're fairly new at the club. While it might be my imagination, I still feel like we're on "newbie probation".

He's otherwise a fairly responsible and trustworthy person and his wife is also very nice.

Anyone have any advice?

Thanks
Mo

[Mo]

I have a coworker who married a nudist. He was open-minded to the idea, and my wife and I helped him by answering questions he had about naturist life (he knew we are nudists already). He's since gone to a few nude beaches with his wife and enjoyed the experience. He seems very positive about the whole thing, but I've always known him to be somewhat of a randy fellow, and I'm not entirely convinced he can separate sex from nudity. We once tried to meet up at a beach, but traffic held them up, and we didn't get to check out his "nudist vibe", so to speak. But since the birth of our child, we have joined a club and don't go to beaches much anymore (too far). We'd like to invite him and his wife to the club as guests, but since we've never been in a nudist setting with them, I'm afraid he might do something improper. I don't mean something outright, mind you, like touching anyone or anything of the sort. But staring too long or something along those "milder" lines. I'd be willing to take that risk at a beach, but we're fairly new at the club. While it might be my imagination, I still feel like we're on "newbie probation".

He's otherwise a fairly responsible and trustworthy person and his wife is also very nice.

Anyone have any advice?

Thanks
Mo

[Nudeinbama]

Would he and his wife be up for maybe a private social get-together, maybe eventually nude, at your home, with you and your wife , to feel things out first, before doing the nude resort setting?
Nudeinbama

[Mo]

quote:

Originally posted by Nudeinbama:
Would he and his wife be up for maybe a private social get-together, maybe eventually nude, at your home, with you and your wife , to feel things out first, before doing the nude resort setting?
Nudeinbama

This we have done. I've known the fellow for around 13 years, but mostly at work. In that time, we've gotten together socially around 3-4 times, non-nude. He and some other coworkers even stayed over during 9-11 since their way home through Manhattan was blocked that afternoon. But none of those occasionas really gave me any clear indication of which way things could/would go in a nudist setting.

[nudenwv]

i have to go along with nudeinbama. start out with a home visit and possibly invite some other nudist over then see how he reacts. the more he's around nude aquaitences the more he'll get used to it.

[DoctorSurferDude]

You could tell them you will BE at the resort, and that they should stop by. They would come in as guests, have the tour, and if the front gate finds "him" to lack any red flags, then they will allow him admission. So...I guess that way the burden of responsibility falls on the front gate.

If you find him to act inappropriately, you can always educate him on etiquette. Or...you can have a "reason to leave early" in case you see things going south....easier to distance yourself that way.

Find a webpage on "nudist etiquette" and print it out for him, along with other rookie resources, so he doesn't feel scolded.

Good Luck

[WacoTX]

Why not arrange another beach date? But meet some where convenient and go to the beach together.

[puffledud]

Mo,

If you don't want to risk your standing at the resort, then I agree that the 4 of you should have a nude social at either your house (BBQ?) and/or a trip to a nude beach. At most resorts I've been to they make sure the person they are letting in knows the ground rules and any infraction is liable to get them tossed out. I've never known a resort that put the responsibility on someone else.

Good luck,

Dave

[Mo]

Thanks for the suggestions, all. I'll discuss with the wife and see how we proceed.