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[anthony17]

I am new to the clothes free lifestyle but feel liberated already. Although I need some advice. I am recently engaged and am not sure how to appraoch my fiance about entering together, has anyone had this issue, and how did you deal with it?

[anthony17]

I am new to the clothes free lifestyle but feel liberated already. Although I need some advice. I am recently engaged and am not sure how to appraoch my fiance about entering together, has anyone had this issue, and how did you deal with it?

[Nude in the North]

Has she seen you naked yet??

If she has, just do whatever you were doing that time, and just tell her you don't want to get dressed for awhile.
See where the conversation takes you.
You might even comment how comfortable you feel and that you have an interest in nudism if she reacts favorably.

Steve

[Phil]

anthony if you would like to talk about places that you can be nude in se pa e mail me I am a nudist about 6 yrs now and go to nude beach in NJ and nude resorts in PA

[nudnurs]

Hi Phil and Anthony, I also live in s.e.Pa and have sev nudist friends. The advice about talking about the comfort and staying nude sounds good. But it's definitely something you need to bring up before the marriage so that you can enjoy it and hopefully her too! My wife never took to it, and it's been a disaster since! Kevin

[krcNY]

Honesty is the best policy. I would imagine if you told her you like to relax around your home nude and would love if she would join you, she would have no issue. I would not just come out and invite her to a nude resort or beach, she may read more into it.

My opinion.

[KetchumMaine]

I have suggested skinny dipping, but that usually ended up in a more friendly situation than I had intended. I agree with the straight talk suggestion but if you are not willing to do that I guess the best thing is to just start in to do more things nude in the house. Since you are from a conservative background, I will presume that she doesn't live with you yet. In this case, she is likely to arrive sometime when you are doing things nude. Just act as if it is no big thing.

Whatever you do, don't link casual nudity to intimacy. If you are cleaning the house nude, and she shows up, don't let your state of dress lead to an intimate encounter. There is enough time for that later. Also, when you discuss it with her, try to not use the word "nudist" until she understands your viewpoint fully. Many people have misconceptions about the word "nudist" (they link it to sex clubs and wife swapping).

[NorthVanNudist]

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Originally posted by anthony17:
I am new to the clothes free lifestyle but feel liberated already. Although I need some advice. I am recently engaged and am not sure how to appraoch my fiance about entering together, has anyone had this issue, and how did you deal with it?

Hi Anthony,

Before I became engaged, I had told my fiance that I was usually nude around my apartment when nobody was over. I did make sure she knew about this before I ever went nude in the apartment while she was there.

Its important to talk things like that over beforehand, rather than suddenly just opening the door nude. What did I say? I just told her "I usually don't wear clothes in the apartment" and hoped that didn't bother her. She of course asked why and I told her I was just a lot more comfortable that way. I made sure she understood that I respected her feelings and didn't try to push anything.

We've been married many years, and I still go naked at home when we're alone.

[carbuff]

Good adviceNorth van Nudist!
All I would say is makesure she knows how important it is to you and that she is accepting or there will be problems .
Dont just casualy mention it find out where she stands on the issue of being naked aroune the house and maybe,someday a beach or resort .
I urge you because I myself didnt do it now I wish I did!
Good Luck, please let us know how it goes .

[nudetone]

quote:

Originally posted by krcNY:
Honesty is the best policy. I would imagine if you told her you like to relax around your home nude and would love if she would join you, she would have no issue. I would not just come out and invite her to a nude resort or beach, she may read more into it.

My opinion.

I totally agree. It would be better if her first exposures (no pun intended) to the lifestyle is in an everyday setting-- the home. Once she participates and feels comfortable at home, she may then be willing to venture out into a social place like a beach or resort.

[nudetone]

quote:

Originally posted by KetchumMaine:
Since you are from a conservative background, I will presume that she doesn't live with you yet. In this case, she is likely to arrive sometime when you are doing things nude. Just act as if it is no big thing.

If you do live together or are together first thing in the morning, don't get dressed right away. Make the coffee and eat breakfast nude. Let her see that this is just an innocent part of your regular routine.

[Big Guy]

Hey, Anthony...So i think that you should just tell your fiance. If you have an open relationship, i am sure she will understand. However, if she accepts that you like it, but dosen't want to pursue it herself, then you can't push the subject. (you probabaly know that...lol) If she does, then GREAT!!!

As for ways to tell her, i have no idea....maybe tell her after a serious chat or something? lol...Hope it goes well!

Stay Naked!

[Nudony]

My wife and I were also engaged when I really started becoming interested in nudism, and I had the very same concerns. Luckily, I had a good group of nudist cyber-friends to give me advice. I already slept nude, which is usually the recommended first step. I encouraged her to sleep nude with me, which I simply did by stating my preference for skin-against-skin contact; she had no problem with that, even though she was initially puzzled that it didn't necessarily lead to sex (an important point to establish, as KetchumMaine explained). The next step was getting her used to seeing me nude; I accomplished that in several ways: pulling her into the shower with me after getting out of bed in the morning (always in a "fun", loving manner), or cooking breakfast and bringing it to her nude. That quickly became routine, and she soon thought nothing of walking from the bedroom to the bathroom nude herself.

Then came the next, and most important step: bringing up nudism. I accomplished that by purchasing a few nudist mags and letting them lay around the house. When she found them, that lead to some discussion, and I was able to determine that she was open-minded enough to make it a recurrent topic of conversation (if she had expressed concern or outrage about it, I would have had to readjust my entire strategy). I then stated my interest in a clothesfree home-life; she didn't express much interest in it, but agreed to let me try it. And I altogether stopped wearing clothes at home. It didn't take her long to join me, since by then she had been nude around me quite frequently anyway. After about three months, we'd both be nude the moment we walked through the front door.

After that, my biggest challenge was getting her out and to a resort. But that's another topic.

[lovebeingnude]

We started out watching TV nude between blankets on the floor. Usually with a fire going.

Unfortunately, living near Chicago, I can't go nude around the house year round.

[anthony17]

I had no idea that I would get such a good response, I thank all of you, for your advice. I will take it all into consideration, and hopefully all goes well.

Thanks for the support.