How to get nude in front of my kids?

[Weims4Life]

Hi, My husband and I adopted our four children three years ago and they are now 10, 8 and twin 7 year olds. Since we did not have them from birth they never grew up seeing us naked. I am a closet nudist and we have a really great nude resort here in Oklahoma that I want to join with my family. My problem is how the heck do I get nude in front of my children for the first time wihtout feeling uncomfortable? They have walked in on me getting dressed before and have seen my breasts but they make such a big deal out of it that it gets weird. Anyone have any suggestions. Thanks.

[Weims4Life]

Hi, My husband and I adopted our four children three years ago and they are now 10, 8 and twin 7 year olds. Since we did not have them from birth they never grew up seeing us naked. I am a closet nudist and we have a really great nude resort here in Oklahoma that I want to join with my family. My problem is how the heck do I get nude in front of my children for the first time wihtout feeling uncomfortable? They have walked in on me getting dressed before and have seen my breasts but they make such a big deal out of it that it gets weird. Anyone have any suggestions. Thanks.

[EricNY]

Go slow...a little at a time. In a short time they will become accustomed to it, and will not even give it a thought,

My children 12, 10 and 3 are quite comfortable and well adjusted to non sexual nudity. Now they consider it quite normal (because it is and should be)

[need2Bnude]

Wow, wish i could help with this one, I do say be careful not to rush them, since they giggle too much at just a minor sight of nudity. Also, I would (and this is just me) use a little less clothing every now and then to help them adjust to the extra skin exposure.
Good Luck.

[DoctorSurferDude]

I'd first talk with them, about it....in a simplistic way. I think in that way you could guage their feelings about it.

It would be fair to have "my naked space". You could literally draw a boundry with tape on the floor or just a door space, depending on your house's layout. Or even "naked time"...a time in the day when you get to be naked around the house and if they don't want to see that they should close their eyes. I agree with the rest though, with some time, and pacient understanding, they'll probably end up adjusting and joining in.

[jon71]

DoctorSurferDude is right. Talk. Let them giggle but when they see you serious that will run it's course quickly. Tell them clothes aren't necessary in their own home (maybe unless there is company). Give them the option to join in, no pressure. I bet they'll come around fairly soon.

[Weims4Life]

Thanks for all the suggestions. I have talked to them about being nude and maybe going to this nude resort and they think it would be cool. As soon as I mentioned it they all stripped off their clothes and ran around inside and outside the house. They think we should have naked day but I am just not sure about being naked in front of them, it feels strange to me. Maybe I am more closeted than I want to admit, LOL. I am nude most of the time at home when they aren't there but just haven't plucked up the courage to do it in front of them.

[twldr2002]

Children are the most natural nudists of all as they often do not have any emotional fears or concerns re being undressed in a safe and supportive environment (at home, at an established nudist club or park etc).

Children pay little attention to their nude parents other than knowing if its OK for their mother or father to be in the nude then its OK for them also.

Parents set the tone for their children to follow. If you enjoy being clothing free when alone, then why not with your children, and they are your children!

You and your spouse are very special to love and care for not one but four children!

Living clothing free is a wonderful gift to not only your children but also to yourself. Enjoy!

[jon71]

If they're cool with it you'll never get a better chance.

[Ben_m]

My kids (both girls/duaghters) were about 10 and 7 when I started. I started SLOWLY and carefully by simply not closing the bathroom door. There was no shock from them initially, fortunately, I surmised that they behaved similarly in the bathroom (and had NEVER been taught to close the door, also fortunately). I progressed SLOWLY, and did at one point get some objection, so I held back and went even more slowly. Now, about 4 years later, I joke that I can pass them in the hall naked and you could ask them right after what I was wearing and they couldn't tell you. I don't think it's a joke. My sense was, while I felt the need to go slowly and did get some objection, that it was initially more difficult for me to do than it was for them to deal with (at first I did get studied EXTENSIVELY, and you can guess where/what and that was a little nerve-racking for me). I did it, because I believed that I should and that it was beneficial for all of us. Just yesterday I talked surprisingly openly (scared me just slightly) with my oldest (now 14) daughter and her friend about showering at school. Sadly, given tremendous social pressure, we agreed to disagree (I didn't shower in Junior High and High school either, however, to be honest), for the most part, but I know my daughter knows that I believe what I was saying (about there being no shame in having a body and showering in a locker room).

[nudeM]

Just out of curiosity Weims4Life, what is your husbands' stand on this? You mentioned you may feel funny being naked in front of them, but does your husband also feel funny, or have they ever seen him?

What I do is usually in the morning when I wake up, I don't wear anything, so seeing me is no big deal. After awhile, I'll cover up until the evening hours, i.e., after a nice shower and getting ready for bed. I'll go to the kitchen to take my pills, then off to bed. Also, since I don't wear anything in bed and sleep on top of the covers, I'm sure they have seen me at one time or another.

I would go nude more often, but we, hw and myself, both agree that I shouldn't be nude 'all the time' in front of the grandson (7 years old). Due to situations I have noted before (CPS), it is best that way. It is okay with our son (17 years old), that is until he has his friends over.

Lots of luck, and please let us know how things turn out.

[Trailscout]

Ben, it's hard to imagine that a girl would not want to be fresh after gym class and unless she just came out of the pool, she'd be sweaty from any other sort of activity. Girls at my school almost universally showered. If there was any social pressure, it was to not have body odor.

I guess we can't expect a rational response at that age, but you know if a popular influential girl started showering after gym class and she smelled decidedly clean and fresh, wouldn't the other sheep, excuse me, girls follow suit?

[Trailscout]

Weims, your girls are still young enough that you may have a chance to show some leadership with your nudity, especially since the girls are still open to being nude with each other.

I don't know exactly how you will make the transition, but I am confident that you can do it if you start soon.

[Guest]

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Originally posted by Weims4Life:
My problem is how the heck do I get nude in front of my children for the first time wihtout feeling uncomfortable?

The issue here is how to get you comfortable. Since the children like the idea of visiting the resort, I think you could use the visit their to get yourself comfortable with the situation. You may even want to visit by your self first and then take the children. AFter the visit with the children, I bet you will become very comfortable.

[nakednudists]

Heck, if they took off their clothes and ran abound the house naked when you talked to them and they think you should have naked day, then go for it. Once you are naked infront of them for a few minutes, you'll never wear clothes in the house again.