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Maybe this and other nudist/naturist forums are not really representative of the general population but has anyone ever heard of someone trying nudism and giving it up voluntarily? The reports seem to be "I love it", "After a few minutes I was hooked, " Why did I wait so long?", etc. The only people who seem to give it up are ones who have a spouse that strongly objects. Do you agree with that perception? Doesn't the fact that almost anyone who tries the lifestyle gets hooked speak very positively for the naturist life?
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Maybe this and other nudist/naturist forums are not really representative of the general population but has anyone ever heard of someone trying nudism and giving it up voluntarily? The reports seem to be "I love it", "After a few minutes I was hooked, " Why did I wait so long?", etc. The only people who seem to give it up are ones who have a spouse that strongly objects. Do you agree with that perception? Doesn't the fact that almost anyone who tries the lifestyle gets hooked speak very positively for the naturist life? -
Hey Frank -
Good question. I think here you have a bunch of people who are certainly committed to the lifestyle. I have seen in letters in "The Bulletin" where people have denounced nudism. I think there are several reasons this happens.
1) They got into it for the wrong reasons, expecting to find a significant other, pure sex, or some other unreasonable expectation
2) Their ingrained religous values and puritan values win over, as they believe nudism is "wrong"
3) Their significant other does not approve of nudism
I am sure there are more reasons, as others will post, but these three are big ones.Comment
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As Brian said above, the group here is certainly committed (no,not committed as in hospital-committed). It will be interesting to see if anyone posts here in this thread after having denounced the life.
I go along with the idea that some who denounce the life did so due to unmet expectations. Be it sex, or some other expectation, they did not have their needs met.
I do not expect to see me leave the life as it has treated me so well throughout the years.Comment
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we rarely give up something that we enjoy and makes us feel good. too many obstructions along the way could make you just give it up or them. i've heard where this lifestyle has broken up marriages and families. i don't believe it's that critical but would have to find a way to enjoy it anyway. i have met a lot of great people on this forum and keep telling and showing family the positive aspects of it.Comment
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I am not giving it up , even though my wife doesnt condone it. I love it too much . I just hope she comes around.Comment
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Dido. She would like me to give it up, but it ain't happening, now or ever. Nudist for now, Nudist for Life
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A co-worker went to a nudist resort in Ohio with her boyfriend. Their club is mandatory nude and she was not comfortable with that. She went a few times but never liked it. Funny thing was she didnt know that I was a nudist and ended up inviting her to my club as a joke, knowing that she'd refuse. She was shocked that I was serious about visiting nude venues.Comment
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There is also another reason why people may turn down the idea of a clothesfree life. Some people, spouses, for example, are sometimes pushed into the lifestyle rather than really wanting to be a nudist. They tend to feel obligated to participate and when they do, do not like it.
I feel a persons first time should be at a clothing optional club. That way, the person has time to adjust to seeing naked people and then they realize that it is not as big of a deal as they thought. Attending a "nude only" resort for your first time only forces you to de-robe when you may not be exactly ready yet.
People in this forum are going to say that they "are hooked" and that they "love the lifestyle"...because they and we do. It is the people that are not on the forum and do not speak freely of their lifestyle that you never hear...and the ones that you never actually hear are the ones that might be turning the lifestyle down
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I agree with each of you about why people denounce nudism. Another reason, especially for teens, is peer pressure from the textile community. It is very difficult to deal with that peer pressure and teens are usually rebellious of their parents.Comment
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I know from my own children that the most difficult is to tell about it to friends. Young people depend very much on the opinion of friends. There are very few so brave that it does not hurt if you are the only one in the group,Comment
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>> that the most difficult is to tell about it to friends.
Yes, Sauna. For kids, peer pressure and the need to blend into the group rather than 'be different' is a matter of survival. And it starts remarkably early.
It probably goes to far to say that naturism has failed when it cannot even create an environment where children are free from overly focus on looks, body and peer pressure, but still... And teens are one thing, but children of the age of 4, 5?
You should see the protests we receive from parents when we demand that in the pool also children are nude (i.e., everyone nude, no exception - a naturist swim is a naturist swim afterall).
But then, there are also (still) many enough adults that prefer to keep their lifestyle to themselves, and where close relatives (like parents, brothers/sisters etc) do not and will not know about it, deliberately.Comment
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Yes, quite a few, I'm afraid - at least in the cultural circles that I've been involved with (world revolves around me syndrome again, perhaps). This is usually due to familial/social pressure. As already noted by a couple of folks here in this thread, sometimes it can be challenging and take some real determination to face the obstacles that others close to us can throw into the road of naturist pursuit.quote:Maybe this and other nudist/naturist forums are not really representative of the general population but has anyone ever heard of someone trying nudism and giving it up voluntarily?
As they say, your mileage may vary,Comment
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We were raised in a nudist home-unofficially that is. Nudity was common around bedtime and in the morning rush to get ready for school. Frequently, skinny dipping was the order of the day during summer all though we were not members of a nudist club. Of the five kids in the family, four of us have remained nudists as adults with only one sister "giving it up".Comment
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If you truly are a nudist, I don't think you could ever give nudism up. It is so much a part of who you are.
You may have to compromise your nudism because of varing circumstances in your life, but I don't think you can ever really give it up.
I couldn't, when faced with the possibility, and now I'm quite sure my wife couldn't give it up completely even if we weren't together.
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