introducing a friend

[ww03]

I have this friend I like, a girl. We are going to do stuff this summer, I was wondering if I should introduce naturaism to her. I f I would, how do I do it?

[ww03]

I have this friend I like, a girl. We are going to do stuff this summer, I was wondering if I should introduce naturaism to her. I f I would, how do I do it?

[FireProf]

I think you need to give us some more information first before you'll get any real advice.

Ages of you and your female friend. Sorry but I am assuming you're young.

Are your family members nudists?

Has the subject of nudism ever been discussed in general conversation before? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]

[ww03]

Both of us just graduated from high school. I'm the only nudist in my family. I have always kept my nudism to myself. I hope I answered your questions

[florida-david]

wwo3, if i remember corectly, you are a younger male and we all appreciate hearing from the young crowd. this is an interesting question, as depending on your age, some girls might think that you are only after sex and that is the only reason for getting them involved in nudism. i think you need to talk honestly with her about your nudism and why it is that you want her to enjoy it with you. depending on her age, there is nothing wrong with asking her to enjoy nudism with you, but you shuld be honest with her about your intentions. if your intentions are to enjoy nudism with her (as opposed to a sexual relationship ONLY), i would not suggest answering your door in the nude and surprising her, as she might feel you are only after sexual activity. i think you might want to analyze your intentions and tell us what they are so we can comment appropriately. (by the way, i do not think you are after only a sexual relationship, as there are many more appropriate ways to get a girl interested in that than asking us here on the internet how to get her involved in naturism).

[FireProf]

Now then...

I would go right ahead and talk to her about naturism.

Maybe over lunch/dinner or a picnic. I would tell her that you have something to tell her and let her know this is something you've done for quite some time. If that's true. Not knowing you friend, you don't want to scare her away from trying nudism if she thinks you just want to see her naked.

You can let her read some of the general posts here on INA, show her some of the pictures and see what she thinks. Then if she is willing to try. Make sure you allow her to progress at her own speed. She may want to try top free first before going completely nude.

Take it slow and make sure her comfort level is the most important thing on your mind.

Good luck [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]

[wannabenaked2001]

I agree that being open is the best! Depending on her reaction to your opening confession, I would suggest taking a hike with her (if this would not be too out of the ordinary) to a secluded place where there would be some opportunity to go for a swim. Then asking her if she would mind if you stripped for a cool swim (who wants to hike back to the car, or drive home, in wet shorts). Every situation is different, but I think most people are more accepting of nudity when it comes to swimming. Avoid "flashing" her, just strip and jump in. Also, try not to think about getting an erection, if you don't think about it, it is less likely to happen ( I think your friend may respond negativly if you are sporting a woody from the on-set). [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

[brainyguy9999]

I would suggest talking to her about it before asking her to join you. Give her some time to think about it and consider the idea. For a lot of people, social nudity is a horrifying idea. Let the shock wear off so she can think more reasonably about it. Then, you could suggest a resort or beach nearby.

I would suggest going to a resort because I feel that it is a more controlled environment. She may be more comfortable feeling that she is closed-off from the public that she wouldn't get on a beach.

I would also suggest to her that she and another female friend go on their own to give it a try and get used to it some before bringing you back into the picture (unless she insists that you go).

There are a lot of emotions that come into play when someone deals with: 1)a new relationship, 2) social nudity, 3) the first time a new boyfriend/girlfriend sees you nude. It may be too overwhelming for her to try to deal with all of the emotions at the same time. Let her work them each out individually if she needs to.

Hope this helps. Let us know how things go.

bg

[S.M.A.]

I was just about to post a forum on this topic, since I happen to be in a somewhat similar situation. I think this advice is really going to help.

[florida-david]

WWO3 - any luck introducing your friend? did you decide not to do it???

[Raised_by_She-Wolf]

[b]
Well, being a female in your age range, here's how I'd react to it...
If a guy friend came up to me and asked, "Hey, baby, wanna get naked together?" then I can guarantee that the next time he's naked after that will be on the mortician's table. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img]
So, like the previous people said, try to be tactful: explain your philosophy, tell her to invite a friend, etc. There's safety in numbers.

Speaking of which, do you have any guy friends willing to try crazy things? If so, invite them over to watch football naked, then invite the girl (and maybe her friend) over. If that happened to me, I really wouldn't think they were doing anything sexual--I'd just assume that that's what boys do when they're together. Boys are just whacko. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_razz.gif[/img] But keep plenty of towels around, in case something comes up. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_redface.gif[/img]

[Trailscout]

When I was in college, my girlfriend brought up the subject of skinnydipping. She said that one day her family was walking down the beach and they stumbled on an area where nudists go. She said that they saw families with children and everyone was having fun and enjoying the sun. She said it all looked so innocent, safe, wholesome and natural. Her family had heard of nudists before, but it was like a dirty joke. When they saw the real thing, their minds were completely changed about it. She asked me if we could go to Florida together to try it sometime. She didn't want sex. She was attracted to me, but she wanted to wait until marriage. But she told me that being naked is not a sin, it's a good thing. Our schedules didn't come together to make such a trip possible, but I wish they had.

I had always thought that it would be neat to go skinnydipping on a beach but I figured that people would be offended or we would get hassled. It was only after my girlfriend told me about that nude beach that I entertained hope of having my dream of being nude could come true.

Some nude beaches are best visited by groups rather than individuals or solitary couples. In the unlikely event that some people stared or hassled you, a group would be able to run the bad guys off.