body contact

[Chris N]

Hello,

When I'm with my family I'm clothed, because they'r not naturists. Then we give each other a hug (my sister) sometimes, or friendly struggling. When I surf on the internet I read about playing games by naturists (even twister) and sport. When I'm in a clothed crowd or waiting in a line, I feel body's touching my body. When I'm together with my girlfriend my arm/hand is on her shoulders or legs or we hang over each other.
I got the following questions:
Is there any body contact in daily live when you are nude in a naturist environment?
Or is it strictly forbidden?
How do you deal with that contact with family, friends and others?

greetings,
Chris

[Chris N]

Hello,

When I'm with my family I'm clothed, because they'r not naturists. Then we give each other a hug (my sister) sometimes, or friendly struggling. When I surf on the internet I read about playing games by naturists (even twister) and sport. When I'm in a clothed crowd or waiting in a line, I feel body's touching my body. When I'm together with my girlfriend my arm/hand is on her shoulders or legs or we hang over each other.
I got the following questions:
Is there any body contact in daily live when you are nude in a naturist environment?
Or is it strictly forbidden?
How do you deal with that contact with family, friends and others?

greetings,
Chris

[David77]

I have never read any nudist camp/resort rule that says "DON'T TOUCH ANYONE!"

The rules generally say that touching should be limited to friendly greeting and only friendly non-sexual body encounter is publicly allowed.

[Guest]

I think it depends on the area, the people, and what they're used to doing. When I visited Serendipity Park in Cleveland, GA, I was greeted by one the ladies there with a very friendly hug. We were both nude except for the open jacket she wore. Of course, I would never intiate the hug myself, but then I would think it would depend on who the person was to you. Of course, no sexual activity of any sort is allowed in public in nudist clubs and resorts.

[nudeM]

I tend to agree with the answers so far. I see nothing wrong with a casual hug as a greeting gesture. Nothing sexual about it. It's just when the hugs become HUGS. I mean the all out touchy feely hugs. These shouldn't be permitted in any public setting.

The only question I have is, what about the hugging-type atmosphere you encounter at a party, i.e., New Years, when everyone hugs at the strike of midnight? Would this be permitted in a social seting? Nothing sexual about it. People like to hug and socialize and everyone is in the partying mood.

[shãybare]

I, also, agree with most of what has been said. Chris N you said,"Then we give each other a hug ( my sister ) sometimes,...".
Alot depends on the type of social structure you were raised in. Some families, like the one in which I was raised, are very showing of their affections. Good morning hugs and kisses between parent and child and between siblings is just a very natural thing. This affection is shown throughout the day with more hugs and kisses and "I love yous". It extends also to your aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends. Yes, even the guys hug and kiss each other on the cheek.
Then there are families that seem to never show affection of any kind. They don't hug their parents or kids or tell them I love you. They deem any type of affection inappropriate. It's a wonder to me how they ever got born or have kids.
Naturally, there are families that fall many places somewhere in between these two extremes. How much or little affection you show to family and friends, as I said, depend much upon your personal family structure.
Now, to get to the main point of your question which is about body contact in a nude setting. Although the degree of contact is limited at some nude resorts, most places allow for body contact as long as it isn't of a sexual nature; e.g., touching or rubbing the genital area, humping, lying on top of each other, etc. It is usually just plain common sense ( although common sense isn't always very common ). A rule of thumb to use could be to ask yourself, "Would I do this if my mom was standing here watching me?".
I'll shut up now and let somebody else jump on the stump.

Forever Nude,
Shaybare [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]

[David77]

Chris N,
You state, "When I'm together with my girlfriend my arm/hand is on her shoulder or legs or we hang over each other".

When we consider your phrase, "we hang over each other", we can put our fertile fantasias to work, and come up with several images, and one image is of you and your girlfriend having your arms around each others neck simaltaneously, while standing facing each other for awhile in the nude. This position would give "narrow minded" persons the opportunity to interpret this as a sexy gesture.

Also keeping your hand on her leg for awhile would give the same impression to some persons. When you go to a nudist resort, please be more restrained and more circumspect than you usually are, as we don't want you to be misinterpreted, as we wish you both a very happy visit to a nudist resort.

Nudist resorts do have dances where everyone is nude and many dancers are touching as they dance, but believe it or not, no erections!

[Falcon46]

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Originally posted by David77:
[qb]Nudist resorts do have dances where everyone is nude and many dancers are touching as they dance, but believe it or not, no erections![/qb]

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David77, you just hit on yet another thing I was curious about (and apprehensive) Dancing. While I can see where a fast paced dance wouldn't be much of an issue, slow dances would worry me a lot in regard to erections. Just the very fact of having a nude woman "skin-to-skin" with me could easily be too much for this well intentioned individual. I've yet to have gone to a dance for this reason. I have no idea whether I'd have the necessary "self-control" and be viewed differently from that point forward.

I suppose I could try thinkin' of baseball [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img] But then I'd never be able to keep time with the music... [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img]

Sorry to everyone, I don't intend to highjack this thread... just had a side question that was brought up here... [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img]

Cheers!

[David77]

Falcon,
Yeah! Beware of those slow dances as you would feel too much "romance" and get an erection. At the dances I have been to, the DJ or band plays hardly any slow romantic music, probably for this very reason.

You mention being "skin to skin" and if this means full "body to body" contact, that would get your hormons working vigorously very quickly, so that is a no-no! A few older married couples might dance almost body to body sometimes, but this is the exception, as dancers keep some distance between partners, according to my observation.

Putting an extra heavy towel around ones waist as a "visual safety precaution" while dancing, would certainly be acceptable and understandably agreeable to everyone on the dance floor.

If you go to a dance, you could first merely watch everyone else dance until you become acclimated to this type of environment, and then only dance when you can feel that you can adjust without becoming "a sight".

I imagine that some persons at times, have found it necessary to excuse themselves from the dance floor. Hopefully, you will get more comments here addressing your concern.

[Trailscout]

Nudist resort policies about dance attire vary from place to place.
Cypress Cove requires clothing for dancing in their dance hall, but allows it on their outside porch.
Serendipity Park has no written policy, but the vast majority wears clothes for their dances.

Mountain Creek Grove had some nude dancing couples at an outdoor concert at last summer's AANR East convention. It was dark and outdoors so if anything came up, no one saw it.

I know that clothed or not, slow dancing with the right girl always gives me an intense erection. Even though I am not thinking about sex, just enjoying the intimacy with someone I am attracted to is enough.

Because the lack of clothes puts my desire in the public eye, I would confine nude dancing to private moments. I am speaking for myself.

Older couples or couples my age (mid-40's) who are more accustomed to each other may easily be able to slow dance nude all night. I have seen a few examples of it and nothing "came up" during the dance.

[Falcon46]

David77, I figured as much... and Trailscout, you hit it exactly about the intimacy, which in itself can be sensual with the right woman (clothed or not). Even if I took a lady friend I know to one of these dances, I'd still probably avoid the slow dances. I think for now I'll just pass on the dances altogether until I've had a little more time in this lifestyle, and get better aquainted with the others around me. Perhaps more to the point would be to wait until they get better aquainted with me.

On a side note, I ran a search on "slow dancing" in the forum and found no results. Surely this has been mentioned before at some point in time?

[David77]

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Originally posted by Falcon46:
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On a side note, I ran a search on "slow dancing" in the forum and found no results. Surely this has been mentioned before at some point in time?[/qb]

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Not to my knowledge has "slow dancing" been discussed.

[Guest]

I once saw a nudist photo of a teen boy and girl dancing nude with their bodies touching. I was surprised that it would be allowed. They looked to be no more than in their mid teens. When I was in my teens, there's no way I could have danced nude with a girl with our bodies touching without something "coming up".

Back in my early twenties (yes, I can remember that far back), I was dancing with a woman fully dressed who was "well endowed", and I got a bit excited. How can two teens dance nude pressed up against each other without hormones raging? [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img]

[David77]

Yes, my superb enjoyment at that age was going to dances in the ballroom of the large city in which I lived, during the "big band era", and dancing to noted bands, with girlfriends who did not object to my constant erection touching their body, but I was still a virgin. (Many more young persons were virgins back then).

[Bob S.]

Getting off the dancing topic, which I do not do very well anyway, and back to answering Chris' question ith my own answer:

Contact etiquette in nudist settings is about the same as in textile settings. Nothing forced, always consensual, amilable, not too sexual. There will always be the occasional accidental touch or bump, but that can be politely excused. Playing volleyball, basketball, etc. may have incidental contact as well. As long as no one is upset by the contact, there is no problem.

Brothers and sisters can still hug each other and their parents, couples can still give a quick kiss or hold hands. Anything more between a couple must be taken to a private place. Just because we are devoid of clothes does not mean we will stand at arms' length of others so as to not be touched by them. We just expect to be treated in a civil, respectful way.

Bob S.