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Late thirties, married couple. Just started secretly going to events. Totally enjoying it. We tell our kids we're going to dinner and a late movie. Extented family, neighbors and co-workers would freak out. Should we stay in the closet? A bit more exciting being a secret.
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Late thirties, married couple. Just started secretly going to events. Totally enjoying it. We tell our kids we're going to dinner and a late movie. Extented family, neighbors and co-workers would freak out. Should we stay in the closet? A bit more exciting being a secret. -
I told my daughters and sons-in-law. The only one who seemed shocked was my older daughter. They're 29 and 32.
I've told a lot of people at work, and they're spreading it around. One fellow Christian asked me if it was true I was going to live in a "strip nudist place" as he put it. He was shocked that I as a Christian would do that and tried to convince me that it was wrong. I tried to convince him it wasn't. Neither of us was convinced. I always wondered what my reaction and reply would be if another Christian who considered social nudity to be wrong were to find out about me being a nudist. Now I know that I'm not at all ashamed of it because there's no reason to be. It's as natural as breathing. I could have lied to him and said the other person misunderstood something I said. I hesitated for only a second before telling him that I want to live in a nudist resort after I retire this coming Friday.
I know that most of the world doesn't understand our love of being nude and our dislike for clothes, but there's no reason to be ashmed of it. I figure that anyone who rejects me for it, as a long-time friend did last year, they're not worth having as friends. As for my relatives, the only one's whose opinions matter at all are my daughters. However, they don't run my life any more than I can run their's. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]Comment
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Some of the most unexpected results can occur when we are honost.
My wife and I have been going to nudist resorts for over 30 years. When we first got stated we were newley married. When we had our first child I decided to go to graduate school. My wife was going to have to work to help out. So we went to the University town to hunt for a job,thinking it might take a while. Well, sho found one the first day, now what to do as we were not ready to move?
There was a nudist resort close by that we had gone to. so she found a rental trailer and was comfortable to live there. She had our son with her. So I knew that my mother would want to visit her grandchild, what to do? I decided I would have to tell her. I went to her house and after some time I gathered up my courage and tried to tell her, but I was so afraid she would think I was really messed up. The result was that I would start and stop, finally she said, "you have something to say, so just say it." So I told her.
Her response was, "I had already figured that out." She was not upset at all. In fact, she and dad went with me and spent a weekend at the resort. Dad undressed, but mom never did. She was friendly to everyone though.
So, you never know what the result will be.
I do not think lying to your children or anyone else will ultimately be in the best interest of good relationships. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]Comment
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How old are your kids and why don't you want to tell them? And what kind of secret nudist events are you going to?
Your kids can't be too old and you may be able to do more if you tell them that you two are enjoying a nudist life. You may even be able to vacation in a nudist park with them. Unless your events are strictly adults-only, there is no real reason why you have to be secretive about where you are going. In fact, it is important for them to know how to reach you when you are out.
As for telling others in your family or friends, there is no need to. But your children are your children and if they find out what you do while you are gone, having lied to them about where you were going (which is a possibility), there will be some trust lost as well as the idea that nudity is something so sinister that it must be kept secret.
Bob S.Comment
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No, what is exciting, is being free where ever you want to be. It may seem exciting while your hidding, but once you stop... the excitement doesn't. It is just tooo fun to be naked outdoors and it should be illegal... [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_confused.gif[/img] oh sorry it is. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]
Live life Free...
You deserve it!
Nudity Rules!!!
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New Nude in NW,
We have two grown children. One is married the other is 1-2 years away from tying the knot.
What ages are your children. Ours are 29 and 25. They handled it quite well. We had a couple of minor, real minor relapses of shock. Once their questions were answered again they were fine with our lifestyle.
Neighbors know because they have seen us while they were looking over the wall for a ball or just outta noisyness. Friends are a different story. None of them know. We just have nudist friends and textile friends. We don't intermingle the two.
Family other than our children do not know either. Some are probably nudists but won't say, others wouldn't understand. Strange that we came from the same family and that some of our parents children are comfortable with nudity and others aren't. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]Comment
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New in NW:
How old are your kids?
Depending on age and how you brought them up regarding nudity, they might want to join you at appropriate nude activities.
Teen kids or kids who grew up with parents pounding into their heads that nude is wrong would have a more difficult time, but if you don't tell them you deny them the opportunity to change their minds.
I grew up in a non-nude (anti-nude) household. I was totally terrified of being seen nude ages 12 to 20. Now looking back I wish I had been raised in a nude-friendly environment. I am kind of jealous of those who had that freedom from an early age.Comment
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me and my wife are in are mid thirts and have be going to nudist camps for going on three years now and love it. But we never told any budy but one good friend.Are kids are teenagers and would probably under stand but not want to do it them self. Are family on the other hand i beleave wood not understand so its alot easyer to not say anything. stay nude when ever you can. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]Comment
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Thanks for the good responses. Kids are 17, 14 & 10. They've never been exposed to nudity and getting through puberty is tough enough. We're just having fun enjoying it.Comment
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When I first became a nudist 24yrs ago I was afraid to tell anyone. I moved to a very secluded area and told every one not to come over without calling first because I worked odd hours and I could be sleeping or working. This worked out great for years untill one day when I was outside watering my flowers and plants that I heard a vehicle pull up. When I turned around I realized it was my parents. I just stood there frozen for it seemed an eternity. Then I realized the jig was up so I just acted as if everything was normal. To my surprise, so did they. My dad did say that it was a great day to get a tan. From that day to this, I have been very outspoken about the lifestyle that I love and think that this lifestyle is for everyone. [Eskimoes?] Anyway, my point being, people [especially friends and family] are more ready to accept us as we are than we might at first believe.Comment
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This is an outstanding example. People around pick up clues on how they should react from the way we react. If we convey shame or embarrassment, they are likely to assume that we're doing something wrong. If we're not embarrassed, probably they won't be upset either.
Originally posted by shaybare:
[qb]. . . . Then I realized the jig was up so I just acted as if everything was normal. To my surprise, so did they. . . . people [especially friends and family] are more ready to accept us as we are than we might at first believe.[/qb]Comment
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My suggestion would still be to let them know about your nudist outings. Let them know how you feel and why you like it. You may even be bold enough to tell them that you may be relaxing the dress code at home and they may see you naked. Let them know that they are welcome to join, and who knows, they may even do so. As long as you set up limits such as when they have friends over, you will remain dressed, there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to be naked in your own house.
And the fact that they have not been exposed to nudity or that they are in their adolescence should make no difference in what you decide. A question would be how have you raised them in terms of nudity? Did you make them put on clothes? Did you freak out whenever they were naked when they were younger? Your previous stand on nudity makes a major difference in how they will handle this change.
Give your children a chance. They may surprise you.
Bob S.Comment
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