The first time nude around your teenage kids???

[Enjoying life]

For our younger veiwers that might be able to help me out. What was your reactions to seeing your parents nude for the first time? And how did you handle it? I am pretty new nudist and have hiden my nudity from my kids, but am tired of have to put cloths on when they are around. I have been leaving my natutalist mags out for them to find, so maybe they will have a heads up. I just want to get a younger person veiw on what they tought about seeing there parents for the first time nude.

[Enjoying life]

For our younger veiwers that might be able to help me out. What was your reactions to seeing your parents nude for the first time? And how did you handle it? I am pretty new nudist and have hiden my nudity from my kids, but am tired of have to put cloths on when they are around. I have been leaving my natutalist mags out for them to find, so maybe they will have a heads up. I just want to get a younger person veiw on what they tought about seeing there parents for the first time nude.

[Rabid_Clam]

I am not a younger person at all but can only offer my experiences and feelings.

FIrst you need to talk to your kids so they know. Don't let it all out at once but carefully a little bit at a time. Discuss nudity in general and then your feelings on it. Then your position and learn their reactions. If they accept it all then keep going but when they reject it be careful and you may consider to just keep it to your self. After all, they are at the age where they can make some decisions for themselves now.

I saw my parents nude at times but they were not nudists. At first I was curious but when I saw them it was obvious they were no different than other nude people, had all the same normal features, nothing remarkable. If they were to become nudists it would not have particularly bothered me and I most likely would have joined them once I saw that nudity was ok with them and how to handle it.

Hope I have helped you some.

[Nudony]

I'm not a young person either, but I do know that a teen's reactions to seeing his/her parent nude is fairly hard to predict. It will depend on factors such as the child's maturity level, level of communication and bond with the parent, and even the general "atmosphere" of the home. In my case, I saw my Dad nude many times in my early childhood, so I never reacted to his nudity since it had always been present. I was 15, however, when I first saw my mother nearly nude. We were vacationing in the south of France, on a beach that was predominantly topfree. My Mom sponaneously decided to "Do as in Rome..." and the next thing I knew, she started unfastening her bathing suit top. I was shocked. And when I shared my feelings about it, she simply told me to get over it and tossed her top to the side, which outraged me even more. In hindsight my reaction was primarily due to my immaturity and our lack of communication at the time.

But it doesn't always happen that way. A home-nudist friend of mine, after erecting a privacy fence, simply got in the pool with her teen daughter (I believe then 15 or 16) and spontaneously tossed off her bathing suit. Her daughter immediately joined her and collaborated in the ensuing decision to be nude in and around the pool. In this case, the transition to home-nudity was seamless.

The direct approach can work, if you feel that your kids are in an emotional and psychological "place" where they can handle it. If you have doubts, then communicate your desire to be nude, openly and without reservation. Again, when the idea is out and in the open, you will have to decide whether you directly disrobe and start going nude around your home (that worked out fine for one of the members here), or whether you take a gradual approach of "incidental' nudity, such as leaving the bedroom and bathroom doors open and going nude in between, so that they can be mentally prepared to eventually see you nude.

I hope my post helped!

[tinner666]

I was probably 17 when I found my mother nude. Might have stared for a second, then didn't pay it any attention.
As for my kids, It seemed OK to them for me to be nude until they hit their teens. Then one day, I announced I was a nudist, I paid the bills and I wasn't going to worry about their proclaimed sensitvities anymore. Son said OK. Daughter said no. I stayed nude and she lost her attitude in a few hours. Even brought her friends to visit unannounced. She and they paid me no mind.
I was nude, not 'weenie wagging', which was a MAJOR difference to them. Even unannounced visitors expressed that opinion. Was never an issue after that.

[nudetone]

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Originally posted by Enjoying life:
For our younger veiwers that might be able to help me out. What was your reactions to seeing your parents nude for the first time? And how did you handle it? I am pretty new nudist and have hiden my nudity from my kids, but am tired of have to put cloths on when they are around. I have been leaving my natutalist mags out for them to find, so maybe they will have a heads up. I just want to get a younger person veiw on what they tought about seeing there parents for the first time nude.

I think more info about your family situation is needed. Are you a single parent or do your kids live in a "traditional" family setting? If you are a single parent, do you have custody of your kids or do you only see them on the weekends? If you are not a single parent, will your wife be nude too? Have they ever seen you and/or your wife nude before? Have you ever discussed the topic of nudity in general? These are factors that might determine how you go about handling this situation and how your kids might react.

[Nudist Bear]

I was only 3 when my mother started going nude around the house. Even at that age I was semi-embarassed to see her naked. I remember she sat me down while she was getting ready for work and explained that she was going to be naked around the house. She told me I could to if I wanted to. That despite what I had been taught before, being naked with family and friends is okay. It didn't take me long to join in.

Scott

[nudeM]

It's a lot different being naked for the first time in front of younger children than teens. The younger they are, seems they are more curious than anything, but with teens, the possibilities could be from acceptance to total outrage.

The only problem I can think of, is with teens, the mere shock of viewing their parents naked for the first time 'could' cause a rift between the parent and the teen. Just the fact that word of teens' parents going around naked could eventually get out in the open (school) could cause the teen to be embarassed and possibly loose some friends. If word got out that the teens' parents were naked all the time, then the teen could be the brunt end of some brutal jokes (you know how teens are).

Personally, here at home, my wife (hw), our son and grandson are accepting of my nakedness, but when the daughter comes over, I 'must' cover up. If I don't cover, then the possibilities of our daughter never visiting us again becomes a greater issue. I just don't want to take that chance. Families must stick together, so I don't want to do anything that might jeopardize our relationship. Afterall, I have enough time to be naked when she is not around.

But between the wife and myself, we have reached a mutual agreement, that I will cover up when the kids are home and we are all inside. I still continue to be nude outside, but the curtains are shut and the grandson is outside in the front playing with his friends.

It may sound like I'm rambling, but I hope you know what I am stating. Now to get back on track, the first time I went nude in front of the kids was about 4 years ago. The grandson laughed at (Papa's wee wee), the son (17) didn't mind, but he kept 'viewing' me. The wife thought I lost it and the daughter totally was against it.

Since that time, the wife is a regular member here and has made many friends, the son still accepts it and the grandson, he acts as though it's no big deal, and the daughter, still against it.

[Bob S.]

Advice, not experience.

Since you have already started with leaving nudist mags around for them to see, it is time to sit down with them (either individually or asa group-whichever you think would be best) and talk with them about the new dress code for everyone.

Explain to them that they may see you naked now and then. Get their views and answer their questions but still explain to them that it is your decision.

Then go slowly. Don't just jump into it unless you know they are all into it. You may find that one will be shyer, more accepting, neutral, etc. Everyone is different. Do things such as after a late night shower, just don't dress, eat breakfast naked, and other morning and nightly rituals that usually would be done with pajamas on.

Respect the ones who are reticent and apprehensive by limiting your exposure to them until they can get used to it. Then slowly increase the naked time around them.

Of course this is contingent on what nudetone brought up, your marital status, the wife's opinions, and, if divorced/separated, the ex's position.

Good luck.

Bob S.

[Bob the Builder]

I have never once saw my mother naked. If I came home one day and she was naked, I wouldn't be phased. I too would strip down and be naked with her. My mother has no idea of my like to be naked. But if I came home and saw her naked, I would join in. End of that.

[concerned]

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Originally posted by Enjoying life:
For our younger veiwers that might be able to help me out. What was your reactions to seeing your parents nude for the first time? And how did you handle it? I am pretty new nudist and have hiden my nudity from my kids, but am tired of have to put cloths on when they are around. I have been leaving my natutalist mags out for them to find, so maybe they will have a heads up. I just want to get a younger person veiw on what they tought about seeing there parents for the first time nude.

[Enjoying life]

Thanks for everyones impute, it been very helpful.

[Rabid_Clam]

This is a great place to get thos unusual questions honestly answered! Hope you do well.

[Nudony]

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As for my kids, It seemed OK to them for me to be nude until they hit their teens. Then one day, I announced I was a nudist, I paid the bills and I wasn't going to worry about their proclaimed sensitvities anymore.

tinner66, does that mean that you already went nude at home when your kids where growing up? Was it just a matter of making home-nudism "official"? If that's the case, it's a bit different from never having been nude around one's children and one day decreeing that you're going to start being nude around the house. When the friend I described in my post decided to make bakyard nudity "official", everyone in her family had already caught her nude at some point, so it went over without much fuss.

[tinner666]

We were all nude plenty of times while they were growing up. Then, around 15 the daughter decided to lay down new laws. I did that for a while, then went back to my old ways. After about a day, things were back to normal.

At WTP, I often see families come in, the adults get undressed and tell the kids to do what's comfortable. AND none of them had been nudists before. The kids generally join in, though some towel wrapping/carrying is done in the beginning. Usually, to the best of my knowledge, everybody has a good time, with no adverse reactions from the kids.
If the kids are told about it ahead of time, and it's done around home first, there's no problem. I watched a family bring in their 8-10 y.o.'s, (who weren't nudists). The kids looked around for 2 minutes, asked if they could get naked too.
Who has ever met an 8 y.o. that doesn't know what the other sex looks like? I knew by 5.
And like my daughter admitted, nudity is not the same as exposing oneself for some obscene reason. Her friends, who have come to the house and seen me naked said the same thing.