Back to the old days

[pDD-]

well this is just a thread about my recent seperation from my fiance which has affected me alot. On Tuesday i broke it off with her due to complications we have been having that affected us. Now im not gonna go on with a sob story i just feal like talking to other people about this helps me. feal more comfortable talking to strangers than i do to family or friends or anyone off that nature. . . . kind off sad that i cant do that. But now i continue my life as a single hard working male living alone. Some young males see this as a good thing living alone no gf or fiance to hold u back just have fun i have yet to see these days coming back for me and im only 21 is that weird???? Am i what some people would call a typical male???? Will the old days come back to me???? Will i be able to relive the old days where it was just sex with any girl drinking going out having fun and living life???? These are the questions i ask myself since the departure between me and the person i loved. I dont no why i did this thread or why i am putting so much thought and heart into it lol i tryed to talk to my dog rocco but he has more important things to worry about like how his nuts taste lol. Anyways feal free to comment if u wish whatever it is doesnt matter say what u think. Thanks for reading


P.S i say the old days becoz it seems soo long ago when i did all that stuff

[NudeAl]

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There came a time in my life when I got bored with the old days. I wanted something more than a one night stand, maybe I am weird but I don't think so. Being young is the time to try out as many flavors as you like however sooner or later you will decide you have a favorite and that will become the only one you want. I hope you find the person you're looking for but it is something you don't need to rush into. Take some time for you. Goodluck

[scrptman]

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let me get this straight, you are just 21 and are worried about recapturing the "old days" !!! omg

21 is wayyyyyy too young to be getting married in this day and age. Clearly you are not mature enough to be considering such a move (and I don't mean that as an insult - 99.9% of 21 year old males are not mature enough, and that's okay).

I can't even begin to tell you how much life experience you have yet gain. Most 20-somethings are already convinced that they know everything, but I can assure you that someday you will look back on this age and realize with confidence that you were still a kid.

Be patient, have fun, live

[walter05]

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Scrptman has some good thoughts.

You are too young to have been finished becoming an adult. I know this will insult you but when you are 30, you will understand.

You can do a lot, but be a lifelong mate and soul mate, no. You don't yet really know who you are.

If you want quick orgasms, don't masturbate with others' bodies. That is not right either. You can also catch a STD which will make it harder to find that soul mate.

I would cool it relax and try not to rush life.

[LamontCranston]

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Some young males see this as a good thing living alone no gf or fiance to hold u back just have fun i have yet to see these days coming back for me and im only 21 is that weird???? Am i what some people would call a typical male???? Will the old days come back to me???? Will i be able to relive the old days where it was just sex with any girl drinking going out having fun and living life????

Well, you're only 21 so you don't really have "old days". What you really have is a bright future ahead. Focus on that. If this woman wasn't for you (or you weren't for her.. the difference is irrelevant) it is FABULOUS that you both figured it out before you had kids and 16 years of a stormy marriage behind you (which I had and sprang back from).

And I mean FABULOUS. Good for you. So today -- this week -- you're feeling a bit low about it. Cool beans. Feelings are good, ignoring them is not. Reaching out is good, stuffing it is not. Tomorrow the sun will shine. Get out and enjoy it. There is no "typical" or "weird" in this world. There is only you and the other fellow or the other gal.

If I can offer one bit of advice (just one thing) from a 46 year old guy to a 21 year old guy (and I don't like offering advice) it's this:

Do not worry about what other people think. You matter. They don't.

Have a nude day..

[eagle59]

be glad and embrace the freedom!!!

be glad and embrace the freedom!!! I got married when I was 22 and have been happily married for 27 years now, but there are days that I wish that I had waited until I was 30 or so and experienced a lot more. don't get me wrong, I am not regretful that I got married and "settled down" so young, but remember that as soon as you do so you have chosen a path that is long and hard to stray away from. By the time I was 27 years old I had three kids, a mortgage, two car payments and was working 50 hours a week to pay the bills. some days I wish I had waited a bit and traveled the country or the world, met different people, had more life experiences before jumping into marriage and kids. Embrace life, life it to the fullest, if not for yourself then do it for those of us who did not take the chance to do so. We will live vicariously through you!!

[Nudeinbama]

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So well put Eagle. I often feel the very same and did the same as you.
Nudeinbama

[naturalmanwa]

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I think it best that you find a profession and get training and and a job, then think about a house or property. Put money in savings that you would spend on having fun with friends. At least you broke up before having a kid or two and having grandparents to have to raise it! There is lots of time to get married and do the family thing, and finding the right partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make!

[thestrokes44]

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i wish i can help some way

[nakedstudent]

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I'm currently 23 (a couple years older than you) and can sympathize with the loneliness you probably feel right now. I'm single and have been for about a year now (without engagements or even a long term relationship) and sometimes I feel lonely and like a "3rd wheel" when my friends invite me out.

With that being said, there are numerous positive aspects of being single. You don't have to compromise with anyone else, you don't have to put up with anybody else's habits that annoy you or any of that bologna.

Once you sit back and find intrinsic happiness, the person who you're meant for will find you.

[pDD-]

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First i would like to that everyone that has left a comment and showed support i am very greatfull. i just want to tell u guys a little bit about my life and what i do.

i am a tradesmen in plumbing i have been doing it for bout 5 years now. i own my own van and fully equip with tools for my trade. i get up 5:30 every morning get ready for work feed my dog and head out to the job site i am working at. i do my 8 hours off work each day go straight to the gym come hom shower eat feed my dog play around on the computer a little and then off to bed to do the same thing the next day. i work mon to friday and then do my own jobs saturday and if needed sundays which is usually the case. i own half off the property that i am living in and my brother owns the other half.

now my life is on track in that part off life and when it comes time to hang with some mates i make some time. i have been doing this since i have left school when i was 16 and just bout a year ago me and my brother bought this property togher and moved out off my parents house. i am the youngest in my family off 4 (including me) and coz i am the baby i never get heared alot which i dont about.

i have done things when i was younger that make xxx rated porn sites look like something out off a pg13 movie and never had one regret. i consider my age as only a number and just live with my experiance i have been overseas to lebanon italy and thailand and didnt sober up until i got back to aus.

and with kids i have to nephews and one neice who i love and they love me. i grew up around kids as my sister (who is the oldest in the family and is mother off 2) works and owns a childcare center soo when i was going to skool i would go wait with her to be picked up so i have sort off a connection with them.

dont judge me on my age dont judge the way i sound meet me in person then judge for ur life. when i said the old days like i said in my first thread it feals like soo long ago thats why i reffered to it as the old days. i went into this relationship looking for something serious and thats what i got. in my heart i did all the things i wanted to do had fun never regreted anything soo i listened to my heart and fell in love with this girl and got engaged.

thankyou again after u read this if u have anything else to say do not hesitate, also if its possible i would like a womens point off view thanx

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Age is but a number that we live by experiance tells more

[Kouak]

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Will the old days come back to me???? Will i be able to relive the old days where it was just sex with any girl drinking going out having fun and living life????

I know I do not know you, and I may be reading too much into your quote, but...

It seems to me that, for you, females are just girls to have sex with. Please do not get married until females are women that you can talk to. If you don't understand this, you are not ready to get married.

Remember there is a big difference between loving sex and loving a woman. Marriage is for the long haul. I imagine that you have sex only because it makes you feel good. Have you ever had "sex" where you only pleased your partner, made them feel special, and not asked for anything in return?

Don't get me wrong. I like sex too for the way it makes me feel. You cannot duplicate the feeling when done right. But I also feel very proud when seeing my partner fully satisfied without her having to worry about "returning the favor." She can fully spend all of her energy enjoying the pleasure she is receiving.

[pDD-]

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[QUOTE=Kouak;232733]
It seems to me that, for you, females are just girls to have sex with. Please do not get married until females are women that you can talk to. If you don't understand this, you are not ready to get married.

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back when i was fooling around it was just sex and not caring when i was with my fiance it was love and yes there were plenty off times when i did something for her and not wanting anything in return. we didnt have sex we made love

[nuada]

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pDD,

Looks like you have recieved a lot of well thought out advice. Your life is a wonderfully blank canvas at this time. Enjoy life, have fun, become aquainted with who you are and be comfortable with yourself.

Nuada

[David77]

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pdd,
My condolences for your feeling a great loss. Seems that you are sad and disappointed about the break-up with the one you loved. Time will hopefully heal your wounds. I hope that you will soon look back on your former relationship with fondness, and as an invaluable life's experience.

From your telling us about your daily life, it seems that you are a very responsible, dependable, ambitious person.

You tell us about giving real, unselfish love, - and you will love again.

It seem that you probably have life's great gift of having a good relationship with family members and that you also take some time to be with your (freinds) mates, as you put it.

You may meet another fine woman through your family and friends. It would not hurt to enquire of family and friends if, among their many relatives and acquantainces, they know of a suitable woman for you to date.

Don't try to rush into marriage and having children. For heaven's sake, (and for you and the girl's sake) use condums. There is plenty of time ahead of you, and your life will become more to your satisfaction. You will thankfully also be a real asset to your wife in the future.