I told my mother I was a nudist

[norman_tahoe Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close norman_tahoe]

I just told my mother I was a nudist. It didn't go over so well. She called me a weirdo. They only response I could think of was that it's that that weird. She didn't seem to understand. I couldn't explain why nudism was so important to me. I sort of regret telling anyone.

Basically I decided to declare my bedroom as a Clothing Optional zone, and I taped the following explanation on my door:


An Explanation About My Nudity

For as far back as I can recall I have always been a nudist – even before even knew what it was called. My earliest memory was way back when I was five or six and we were still living in New Hampshire. Even then I tried to take advantage of any opportunity I could to shed my clothes. It is so refreshing and relaxing – there is no greater comfort than enjoying the warm sun, gentle breezes, and cool water.

However, I this had always been done in secrecy – for fear of getting in trouble. I cannot recall ever getting caught, but I somehow knew that our Mother could not find out. Perhaps I had a similar experience as Angela. Angela use to run naked around the house, and Mom would always yell at her to put some clothes on. It is not too great of a stretch to believe that I was also forced to put something on.

I am not ashamed of who I am, as I am doing nothing differently than if I did have clothes on, but I do fear that I would be judged unfairly. It may be easy for many to jump to wrong conclusions, since nudity is such an uncommon state of being. However, anybody who has spent an extended period of time naked would no doubt understand what it is really like.

I have feared being discovered – not knowing what people may think – but I am now older and wiser. People would either think the truth of a lie. If they think the truth about my nudity, then there is nothing to worry about. If they think a lie, then would it be my wrongdoing or theirs? I know the truth, and God also knows – his opinion is the only one that really matters.

Anyone who knew the truth would know that I enjoy trekking across the fields and down the the stream behind our house. They would know that I enjoy the fresh air and exercise. They would know that such an activity like an amazing two hour vacation that leaves me peaceful, happy, and energized. They would know that my actions are no different than if I were clothed – though nothing compares to enjoying nature naturally.

My one regret was not being able to share these wonderful moments with anyone. Going out alone is nice, but it would have been much better with someone to talk to. How I have longed for someone to splash around in the stream with me!

Each of us, however, have kept ourselves guarded – never revealing our thoughts. I am perhaps the most guilty of this – even overcompensating to the point where I did not get dressed in the same room as Jon – or even being able to swim without a t-shirt. I tried my hardest not to reveal who I really was, but now there is no need – I am giving a full confession.

I have heard and seen evidence indicating that we all desire to be a little more free and open – with fewer topics being too taboo to even consider discussing. I'm not saying we all wish to go nude, though some of us may. I am more saying that there are certain things we, as a family, simply don't talk about for one reason or another. It doesn't really make sense for use to be so guarded.

Why now? Maybe there isn't any concrete answer to that question. Maybe it's because this has been something I have been thinking about for a long time. Maybe it's simply because I've enjoyed nine hours of nudity over the past two days and I anticipate enjoying more opportunities during this warmer weather. Maybe it's because I've realized that only the truth really matters and not what misconceptions others may have. It could also be because I have little to lose, yet potentially much to gain by telling everyone.

-Norman Tahoe-

[Ewan M Bronze Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ewan M]

Norman

That was really excellent.

It really sums up as much as my experience too and I am too chicken to mention it to anyone else in fear of what they say.

Good luck and it will be interesting to see what happens in the future.

[Zara Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zara]

Sorry things did not go well with your mom in letting her know.
I have yet to declare my nude interests to my family. They might suspect it, but I haven't admitted it. I really don't know how they would take it. I'll probably have to one of these days.

I have a few online friends who know about my nude interests and are okay with it... at least the ones who responded to me about it.

[fred950 Bronze Member Find all posts View Profile Close fred950]

Norman, Excellent post. (Or was that a blog?) I take it Angela is an older sister? While you don't say how old you are, I take it you are in your mid-to-late teens. If this is the case, hang in there. I know this sounds hard, but remember, you are living in your mother's house. Please, obey her rules. In a few short years you will be on your own. In your own place you can be naked as much as you please.

While strictly speaking my familey was not nudist, we rarely closed the bathroom door while bathing or showering. And if someone had to use the toilet while another was bathing, we simplly used the toilet. No big deal. I slept nude since I was 11 or so. And when I told my parents just what kind of beach Mazo is, my dad replied that he always wanted to visit a now closed nudist camp that was nearby. But was never quite 'brave' enough.

Once again, hang in there.

[nudnurs Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nudnurs]

Best wishes Norm. I remeber those days very well! Kev

[shãybare Silver Member Find all posts View Profile Close shãybare]

Good for you, Norman. I hope things get better for you over time. Just be patient with others.

[katietee Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close katietee]

I guess that I am luckier than most. I started going nude around the house when I was very young and never really had to have any "discussions" about it. It's how I am and my parents are really cool about it.

I've only had one complaint about my nudity and that came from my Dad's best-friend's wife. Her problem, entirely. When she's not around, I'm still nude and he has never complained!

[Ken Palmer Silver Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ken Palmer]

Hello norman_tahoe. This is an excellent post here. I can relate to exactly what you are saying regarding your mother, or any family member, calling you a weirdo. I can tell you that my mother would more than likely react towards me the same way if I were to choose to reveal to her about my nudism. I have mentioned here several times on this forum that none of my family members,co-workers,neighbors,friends, or fellow church congregation members know that I am a nudist. And for the same reason you mentioned here, I intend to keep it that way to avoid any flak from anyone. Unfortunately, this is the only path I can take to avoid that. But like I said, I do completely understand where you are coming from. If I could give you any further helpful advice on this subject, I surely would. Hang in there!

Ken Palmer

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Originally posted by norman_tahoe:
I just told my mother I was a nudist. It didn't go over so well. She called me a weirdo. They only response I could think of was that it's that that weird. She didn't seem to understand. I couldn't explain why nudism was so important to me. I sort of regret telling anyone.

Basically I decided to declare my bedroom as a Clothing Optional zone, and I taped the following explanation on my door:


An Explanation About My Nudity

For as far back as I can recall I have always been a nudist – even before even knew what it was called. My earliest memory was way back when I was five or six and we were still living in New Hampshire. Even then I tried to take advantage of any opportunity I could to shed my clothes. It is so refreshing and relaxing – there is no greater comfort than enjoying the warm sun, gentle breezes, and cool water.

However, I this had always been done in secrecy – for fear of getting in trouble. I cannot recall ever getting caught, but I somehow knew that our Mother could not find out. Perhaps I had a similar experience as Angela. Angela use to run naked around the house, and Mom would always yell at her to put some clothes on. It is not too great of a stretch to believe that I was also forced to put something on.

I am not ashamed of who I am, as I am doing nothing differently than if I did have clothes on, but I do fear that I would be judged unfairly. It may be easy for many to jump to wrong conclusions, since nudity is such an uncommon state of being. However, anybody who has spent an extended period of time naked would no doubt understand what it is really like.

I have feared being discovered – not knowing what people may think – but I am now older and wiser. People would either think the truth of a lie. If they think the truth about my nudity, then there is nothing to worry about. If they think a lie, then would it be my wrongdoing or theirs? I know the truth, and God also knows – his opinion is the only one that really matters.

Anyone who knew the truth would know that I enjoy trekking across the fields and down the the stream behind our house. They would know that I enjoy the fresh air and exercise. They would know that such an activity like an amazing two hour vacation that leaves me peaceful, happy, and energized. They would know that my actions are no different than if I were clothed – though nothing compares to enjoying nature naturally.

My one regret was not being able to share these wonderful moments with anyone. Going out alone is nice, but it would have been much better with someone to talk to. How I have longed for someone to splash around in the stream with me!

Each of us, however, have kept ourselves guarded – never revealing our thoughts. I am perhaps the most guilty of this – even overcompensating to the point where I did not get dressed in the same room as Jon – or even being able to swim without a t-shirt. I tried my hardest not to reveal who I really was, but now there is no need – I am giving a full confession.

I have heard and seen evidence indicating that we all desire to be a little more free and open – with fewer topics being too taboo to even consider discussing. I'm not saying we all wish to go nude, though some of us may. I am more saying that there are certain things we, as a family, simply don't talk about for one reason or another. It doesn't really make sense for use to be so guarded.

Why now? Maybe there isn't any concrete answer to that question. Maybe it's because this has been something I have been thinking about for a long time. Maybe it's simply because I've enjoyed nine hours of nudity over the past two days and I anticipate enjoying more opportunities during this warmer weather. Maybe it's because I've realized that only the truth really matters and not what misconceptions others may have. It could also be because I have little to lose, yet potentially much to gain by telling everyone.

-Norman Tahoe-

[naturalmanwa Silver Member Find all posts View Profile Close naturalmanwa]

I think it's great that you could tell her that you're a nudist. Children should be able to talk to parents, even if they don't get agreement on the subject. I have raised 2 daughters and a son, and I don't agree with everything they do, but they never were afraid to talk to me or the wife about things.

I hope things work out for the best for you in the future.

[nakedjohn Bronze Member Find all posts View Profile Close nakedjohn]

I think it is great if you can talk to your parents, I never had the courage to tell them, I even think they would have agreed, but I never had the guts......it was hard to talk to my parents, there was no open conversation, on whatever subject. I was kind of raised in the time where the rule was:"father knows it best" no other member of the family could have an opinion, it was daddy's rule.

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My father often used to say: I am NOT normal. I am not average. The average normal man is boozing every day, clapping hardly his wife, is educated only at grammar school; whilst I am well educated, am not boozer, and love my wife and children and care about them. Therefore only people hoping to insult me dare to label me normal.

When I realized my "abnormalness" about hail of clothesfreedom, I remember this sentence each time when I have to dare motivate my strong position to anyone. To be different - that is highest honor, and to reveal to parents any honor be proud of, is just logical.

If their attitude what is to be proud of and what is to be ashame of differs strongly of your`s - that is their problem not yours.

[norman_tahoe Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close norman_tahoe]

It's been almost a week since telling some of my family, and I decided to give you guys an update.

To answer a few questions, I am 23 and Angela is a younger sister (18) -- that's how I knew about her running around naked when she was younger. As an aside, "Norman Tahoe" is a pseudonym, in case anyone was nervous about me revealing personal information.

Things have not been too awkward around here. I think most people in my family try to avoid uncomfortable situations -- so it's almost as though I haven't said anything.

The weather has been rather cold, so I actually haven't been nude since telling my Mom. However, now that this information is out there I don't feel I would be quite so nervous about anyone walking in on me naked. I was more afraid of people finding out than of anybody actually seeing me.

I have no interest in making anybody feel uncomfortable, so I don't think I will be roaming free wherever I feel like it. My sister hasn't been in my room to play video games since I told them. I don't know if she thinks my room is now a private location or if she is simply uncomfortable with the idea -- probably a combination of the two.

I'm still afraid of some people finding out. It saddens me when people tend to over-react to the human body. For example, the other night I was over at my brother's friend's house, and his wife rented a movie. When we got it we found that it said "unrated" on it, so they were nervous about watching it. We decided to go ahead with it, but my brother's friend kept the remote handy in case he wanted to skip ahead. They practically freaked out every time they thought toplessness was going to be shown -- which never happened. I don't understand that. I feel that the most appropriate reaction to seeing the human body is no reaction at all. I'm afraid of someone finding out about me and then freaking out because of being too immature to handle it.

[missouriboy Gold Member Find all posts View Profile Close missouriboy]

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My sister hasn't been in my room to play video games since I told them. I don't know if she thinks my room is now a private location or if she is simply uncomfortable with the idea -- probably a combination of the two.

Do you and your sister ever, ummm, like, you know, well, like, talk to each other?

[John P Bronze Member Find all posts View Profile Close John P]

I'm thinking that the issue with the movie that your friends rented might have been that they were afraid that they'd seem to be "enjoying a pornographic movie". Perhaps they weren't really horrified about what might have been in the movie, so much as the possibility of others (the spouse, visitors) thinking that they liked it.

Anyway, summer's coming and there are local naturists who get together once in a while. The first event is the Cape Cod litter pickup day, and that would be good for someone starting out, as it's a clothed event. But you'd get to meet and talk to some of the people. That's on June 9.

Then from June 18-24 there's the Eastern Naturist Gathering in Lenox, MA. The Naturist Society has a variety of events at various times and places, but the ENG is the biggest by far. Definitely a chance to be naked among naked people!

Sorry, but the Maine Coastal Solar Bares' monthly pool parties are over for the season. Think about heading up north to the woods and lakes!

[steve-o Bronze Member Find all posts View Profile Close steve-o]

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Things have not been too awkward around here. I think most people in my family try to avoid uncomfortable situations -- so it's almost as though I haven't said anything.

However, now that this information is out there I don't feel I would be quite so nervous about anyone walking in on me naked. I was more afraid of people finding out than of anybody actually seeing me.

Norman, I think it's really great that you took the initiative, that you were proactive in telling your family, rather than hiding and being nervous about being "caught".

Now you should feel confident in yourself that you are not hiding who you really are. Good for you for standing up for who you are! You have nothing to be ashamed of, it's the natural human body for God's sake.

Be proud of yourself and if they want to be nervous about it then that is their issue. Don't make it yours. I applaud you.

I think Johny (posting above) said it best and I think you should take his words of wisdom to heart:

"...Therefore only people hoping to insult me dare to label me 'normal'.

"When I realized my 'abnormalness' about clothes freedom, I remember this sentence each time I have to dare motivate my strong position to anyone. To be different - that is the highest honor ..."