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**DanJ** · 03-05-2003, 01:24 AM

Does anyone have any tips about being a "closet" naturist without your parents knowing? I know for a fact that my parents don't like naturism, so telling them isn't an option. I need tips on how to be naked without your parents knowing, there are no "hidden areas" around where I live. No nude beaches either. I'm 13 years old and in 8th grade.

**EricNY** · 03-05-2003, 02:02 AM

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Originally posted by DanJ:
[qb]Does anyone have any tips about being a "closet" naturist without your parents knowing? I know for a fact that my parents don't like naturism, so telling them isn't an option. I need tips on how to be naked without your parents knowing, there are no "hidden areas" around where I live. No nude beaches either. I'm 13 years old and in 8th grade.[/qb]

DanJ

I know this is not what you want to hear, but I would HIGHLY RECOMEND,NOT being dishonest or secrettive around your parents. No sneaking off or anything like that. If you are serious about this life choice it will be here when you get older, in the meantime if you have some privacy in your bedroom, use that for your getaway.

Dan you really need to be honest with your parents build a relationship with them to where they can trust you and in the future they will respect your descisions [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

**Suntied** · 03-05-2003, 02:04 AM

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Originally posted by DanJ:
[qb]Does anyone have any tips about being a "closet" naturist I'm 13 years old and in 8th grade.[/qb]

I was one of those at your age! (long time ago) I got caught by my dad at 2:00am. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_eek.gif[/img] It wasn't pretty, I would suggest you give your hormones some time to chill, which they will, and then you might be able to venture out into naturism, since your parents do not approve... niether do I. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

Relax... you've got all the time in the world! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

[img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img] Suntied [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]

**Suntied** · 03-05-2003, 02:08 AM

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Originally posted by ercNY:
[qb][QUOTE]...in the future they will respect your descisions [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img] [/qb]

That's what I was trying to say... we must have been typing in harmony! [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif[/img] Yours sounded a bit better, I think.
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[img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img] Suntied [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]

**florida-david** · 03-05-2003, 12:10 PM

let me disagree a little with the previous posts. they seems to believe in the wait-till-you're-older-young-man mentality. although i agree that some parents are unwilling to bend the rules for a child, i do think that there might be nude avenues to explore for a 13 year old. this particular 13 year old seems pretty mature already. so maybe he should speak to his more open minded parent seperate of the other parent and see if it would be acceptable for him to sleep naked. or maybe he can be naked at home when no one else is home (who will it harm). or maybe, depending on where you live, there is a quiet area to go naked. but be safe and don't tell your parents a story and go somewhere that no one knows where you are going. at your age, its not safe to be alone. maybe you have a friend who agrees with your naturist beliefs? safety in numbers. i used to watch my neighbors house, dog, cat, and pool when they were out of town and would skinny dip in their pool when they were gone. i also would cut their yard and could cool off after cutting the yard (skinny-dip again). so try some simple things at home and keep your mind open. but please, never do anything to endanger yourself in the goal of being naked.

**Rik** · 03-05-2003, 01:33 PM

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Originally posted by Ben_m:
[qb]For myself, I did sleep nude much of the time during most of my teenage years. My mom thought she noticed this once (and she really did) and mentioned it and was upset, but she was unsure enough that I kind-of "blew it off". [/qb]

I really don't get this. When people say the sleep in the nude what they really mean is they sleep wrapped in a sheet, blankets, duvet or whatever so they're not really nude at all. In which case why would even the staunchest anti-nudist parent get upset at such a thing?

As for DanJ, well I guess that all of us who've been 13 years old at sometime or other have done things which our parents wouldn't approve of and, for the most part, we've survived and so have the old folks. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_smile.gif[/img]

Rik

**AussieBeachBoy** · 03-05-2003, 02:34 PM

DanJ, continuing to be a naturist doesn't necessarily mean you have to be dishonest to your parents. It also doesn't mean you have to be overly secretive either.

You are the only one of us who can predict what your parents' reactions might be if you do naturist things and they find out. What this means is it's only you who can work out whether you consider it worthwhile pursuing these activities at this age, or wait 'til you're older.

A problem for you seems to be that you don't know anywhere to go for naturist activities. If there was such a place (for instance, a swimming hole in the river) you could honestly say to your parents that you were going swimming.

One thing you need to realise is that when someone's 13, their parents are often still protective of them and doesn't want them to make rash decisions. As the others suggest, it may be very hard for you to talk them around now, but when you get older (say, 16) it may become easier to discuss the subject with them.

One thing that might help is if there was someone they respected and trusted who could accompany you for naturist activities (like an uncle or aunt or family friend or something). It would probably be hard for you to find such a person, but you never know!

**EricNY** · 03-05-2003, 02:41 PM

Aussie, good advice!

Florida David: Our advice is not that different, the important thing is to make sure that NOTHING is being done behind the parents back. I am a father of three and have worked hard with my family to build trust and honesty within our family. It is important to build this relationship with parents/children first.

All the things mentioned are fine ideas, as long as you remember three things:
Make sure you safe
Don't break the house rules
Honesty is the BEST policy

**Trailscout** · 03-05-2003, 05:05 PM

Dan,

Do you think that you can't talk to your parents about anything they don't like? I hope it's not like that.

I had long hair when I was a teenager. Dad didn't like it, and he frequently made remarks about going to the barbershop, but we reached a compromise because I felt strongly about it.

I wasn't real bold at age 13, but each year that passed, I got more independent and felt more free to show on the outside the person I was inside.

The word "Nudist" freaks some people out. Maybe you can find less controversial words to describe how you want to get an "allover tan in the backyard or you don't want to wear pajamas on a hot summer night.

If your parent's won't let you disagree with them on something like being nude at home once in a while, you will just have to wait, but maybe it isn't as bad as you think.

If you are making good grades in school, treating girls with respect, not smoking or taking drugs, they shouldn't have anything to worry about.

Being nude is normal, even your folks aren't used to it themselves. I grew up with nudity at home and it was no big deal. There are thousands of us in America and other countries who like being nude just like you do. It's just being our natural selves!

**Bob S.** · 03-05-2003, 05:15 PM

Well Dan, here's what I did when I was about your age. I made my room my own private area and stayed and played naked in there by myself. I slept naked. When my parents left me home alone, I locked the door and went naked all over. Right now, those are your main options for being naked in your house if you are not going to talk with your parents or if they are against it.

The other question is how much do they trust you. Right now, I'd say probably a lot seeing as how you probably typed this message on your own computer in your own room using your own email account. Otherwise, your parents would find out what kind of sites you are visiting.

And I can remember when my mother caught me sleeping in bed sans clothing (I had my sheets on so she couldn't see anything, but she used her motherly logic to assume that I wasn't wearing anything under the sheets). I was a about your age and was embarrassed, not because I was naked, but because my mother caught me. So I can sympathise with you concerning not wanting your parents to see or catch you naked.

So here is your only option as I see it. Be a bit cautious concerning your nudity, only doing it in private and times when your parents will not see you.

Good luck.

Bob S.

**Bob S.** · 03-05-2003, 05:33 PM

Dan, are you the same DanJ who wrote on Netnude's Teens board?

If so, you seemed to have found a way to be naked, at someone else's house. My question is whether your parents know about the goings-on at your friend's house? And how many friends of yours are nudists?

Bob S.

**steevo** · 03-06-2003, 10:38 AM

DanJ,
I agree with all the sugessions of be totaly honest with your parents. Maybe you can print out some information for them to read. So that they know that this is something other youths enjoy. And the there are safe places for you to go.
I know that AANR has a club. If you go tp the web site there is an actical about it in the March issue. You can print it out or just ask them to take a look at it with you.
Good Luck and remember honesty is critical in this situation.
Steevo

**Doug H** · 03-06-2003, 01:14 PM

I agree that being honest is probably the best way. Wished I had spoken to parents. Wouldn't have felt as paranoid. Even if they choose to disagree with concept in general, by respecting them and speaking to them about it, they might choose to respect your privacy and let you be nude when by yourself in your bedroom. Not the worst compromise. You'll be able to enjoy being nude alone without the stress of 'being caught' at least.

Doug H.

**JRo62** · 03-17-2003, 09:50 PM

I remember, many years ago, when I was 12 or 13... I had just been discovering nudism. I had asked my Mom for new pajamas since mine were getting quite worn. She actually suggested that I sleep nude like my older brother. I was surprised, but pleased. I was still nervous about it, but it was interesting that my Mother approved.

You might try asking for new PJs and see what your Mom says.

JRo

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