Scars

[Jackie]

My bf is ashamed to show his penis in a nudist place. He doesn't like the scar he has after his circumcision as a youth. You can see the outline of the foreskin and he thinks the doctor did a poor job. I told him he is crazy it looks fine. Anybody else have a poor looking scar in that area.

Jackie

[Jackie]

My bf is ashamed to show his penis in a nudist place. He doesn't like the scar he has after his circumcision as a youth. You can see the outline of the foreskin and he thinks the doctor did a poor job. I told him he is crazy it looks fine. Anybody else have a poor looking scar in that area.

Jackie

[R.M.GREENMAN2]

Just tell him that no one in their right mind pays that close attention to it. If they do, then they are the ones with a problem.

[nudeM]

Ditto here. It's just one of those things that was done while many of us were infants and had no control of it. I never would have guessed that anyone would be ashamed of it. I stand corrected. We all (circumcised) have it. Enjoy the nude life. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_wink.gif[/img]

[stlphun]

I am not a teen anymore (I wish!), but having been a nudist since childhood, I can tell you and your bf that in the REAL nudist world, "ain't nobody cares."

[Nude in the North]

I'm guessing that your Bf isn't a nudist. But you are trying to coax him into giving it a try.
I'm willing to bet that he doesn't want to try it for some other reason than that his penis is ugly.
Try to get him to talk about the real reason he doesn't want to be seen nude.
Then see if he's willing to go for a walk on a nude beach WITHOUT taking his clothes off. Assure him that you will not pressure him to get naked if he doesn't want to.
Maybe by seeing what other people look like, he will be less concerned about his own appearance.

Steve

[wannabenaked]

I have scars that are much more noticable that circumcision, and they don't bother me at all. On rare occasions someone may ask about one in particular (often thought to be from a bullet), and I am happy to explain.

No big deal!

[fred950]

My circumcision scar is, for the most part, hidden by the 'flange' at the base of the head. Unless bf is embarassed by the ccc itself, I don't see the problem.

[Fresh Air]

Scars are something we can not help or do anything about. Nobody in their right minds would ever judge another by the scars they bare. He should understand that nudists especially will not judge him or his body.

Fresh Air

[hairyhomer]

I've never thought about the scar form my circumcision as I was more concerned about the weird white spots on my penis from a skin condition know as vitiligo which stands out more the more you tan. I have never had anyone at the nudist beach ever ask me about it. [img]/infopop/emoticons/icon_cool.gif[/img]

[Bob S.]

I have a scar, but I don't find it to be unsightly, just another part of my body.

I think NitN said it best suggesting that it isn't his penis that he's ashamed about. He's just hiding behing that scar because of a deeper anxiety of being naked. And he has the best advise of taking him to a nude beach where he doesn't have to denude himself.

Bob S.

[Jochanaan]

Has your boyfriend had much experience being naked with other naked guys? If not, he may have unrealistic ideas about what other men's penises look like.

Years ago in an art gallery in Boulder, Colorado, there was a show of avant-garde nudes. Among them was a set of several dozen photos, each one tightly focused on a man's penis. I enjoyed looking at them and seeing the tremendous variety of shapes. Some were cut, some uncut. It wasn't long until I saw each one as beautiful. (Not erotically beautiful. I shouldn't even have to say that, but even here some may assume I'm homosexual if I enjoy looking at men's bodies.) And this was long before I became a nudist!

But not everyone has had such an experience--especially if they've been taught to be ashamed of their bodies and have little experience with the visual arts.

My fear before getting into social nudism was that I wouldn't "measure up" to other men, and that I would actually be laughed at. Fortunately that fear never became a reality.

Most male nudists I've seen are of average or smaller size. A few are well endowed, and a small percentage would be the envy of a stud horse. However, I found I'm in the majority. Although I'm still conscious of the fact that I'm built small, it doesn't matter like it once did.

[nudeinfl]

I suffered from the same fear Jon-Marc mentioned. Like him, I found out that my views were unrealistic. Nudists coma in every shape and style. Some large, some small (most just average). The wonderful part of nudism is that no one cares. After a short while, one becomes oblivious to the nudity. The clothed actually stand out, not the nude.

As for the bf, he is harboring fears similar to what many of us felt. Perhaps try to get him onto this site and read some of the posts by other men here. He will soon realize that his fears are not uncommon yet not to be given in to. By showing a bit of courage, he will open himself up to a magical new way of life. To risk that over a scar which most men have anyway(and most will not even notice) is tragic.